Felt left out? Help!?

[kate]

Today, my class went on a field trip and we had to be divided into ten groups. I grouped with my best friend and two other "friends". When we were on the bus, I sat beside my best friend. She kept texting one of our group members and two other people on the bus... At that moment, I had this weird feeling. When we went down the bus and started our assignment, I felt kinda out of place cause I was grouped with people of opposite personalities, aka my best friend and the two other "friends". They were kinda popular and outgoing while im the one who is more serious and less outgoing. The "friends" kept texting and going on Facebook/Twitter. I don't have a Facebook account now cause I deactivated cause of some bad experiences I had on it last year. My best friend was kinda running about and leaving me behind.. I know I seem like a Drama Queen but I felt left out.,, I initially wanted to group with people of the same personality as me but my best friend dragged me into a group I didn't want to be in... How can i avoid feeling left out when I'm people that are of different personality of me? Don't say to join other people I dont want to leave my best friend behind.

[detour]

It is hard to give an opinion without knowing you but maybe you need to work on your personallity. Maybe you are boring and need to change. If you are insecure and don't get involved with others by contributing to the conversations then you may be lonely in life. If you find it to hard to change then you may have to accept that your friend has to move on and be with more like minded people. Sorry but sometimes friends change and move on. Stay strong and don't get depressed but you may have to spend a lot of your school years on your own. Once you graduate and get a good job you may meet people who you feel more comfortable around and start to change. good luck and work on being more interesting and fun. I wouldn't let others run your life though keep control of what you want to do in life and if it can include others then great if at this time in your life it doesn't then look forward to the days when it does.

[Lexville331]

First off, the idiot above me should be completely ignored. Maybe you are boring? How is that advice?

We as humans base all our decisions on previous experiences and bits of knowledge we have gained to better react to new stimuli. Your best friend may have been there for you those 5-6 times you really needed them, but that doesn't mean they are a good friend. You should evaluate why you are best friends with this person.

At the end of the day, as many people should tell you, you don't have to fit in. You are an individual who is defined by your own actions and your own thoughts. You do not need others to tell you who you are or validate whether or not you are good enough. Forget that nonsense you've heard about needing others for a good time because it is simply ridiculous. Live for yourself and you will find others that will fit around you, not the other way around.