why he's doing this to me?

[whisperingearthquake497]

I met this guy a few weeks ago. He added me as a friend on facebook. He made all the moves. We had a great first date. The second date was amazing and then we started meeting up once or twice a week. So we've been getting to know each other. A bit of kissing. He's initiated sex but we haven't done it yet.

So he's been charming and has been making me feel like a lady...Until...

One day he said he was looking at an old facebook profile picture of mine and he said I looked slimmer and happier compared to recent ones. To be honest that one he was looking at was taken in a nightclub so I'm wearing slinky top, heels, etc. One of my recent ones...I'm wearing ear muffs and a coat...a bit different. Of course over the years I'm a little curvier. I'm fit and very healthy. My body is hour class shape. My waist is slim and my hips are curvy.

Anyway so now this guy is saying stuff like will you lose weight for me, you should eat 2 apples and a soup everyday. He said I'm beautiful. Now I just feel like rubbish. I can't feel or want to be intimate with him.

Is this a power trip? I'm confident, well travelled and I have a good job. His work situation is a little bit shaky. I feel he is saying this stuff about my weight to make me feel bad.

One day I didn't answer my phone because it was too late. He thought I was on a date. So I guess he has low self esteem. I'm aware I need to tone up a bit. Although I'm not overweight. Yesterday I didn't want to eat. I felt like he controlled me.

Thoughts? I still think he cares about me. But I'm finding it hard...I want to speak to him but how can I get him to understand me...

[That One Girl]

Ok i have no idea what age you are, but im willing to be your older than me, and i feel totally awkward giving advice. that being said, ill still try my best to address the situation.
Ok.. hmm.. well I have two takes on this. One is that i know what low self esteem feels like, and i hate it. But it controls me sometimes. People with low self esteem are REALLY afraid of losing the one they love, and sometimes all we need is reassurance that were still loved and were not going to be single anytime soon.
Second take: If he feels bad about himself and tries to drag you down with him, please, don't let him. My bf has a bit of a temper (an uncontrollable one at that) and no matter who he is mad at, he will take his anger out on me and threaten our relationship. But suddenly (only about a month ago) i taught myself to stay aloof at these times. I keep my calm, think before i speak. Eventually he gives up.
But please, don't let him tell you your a bit wider than before. even if it is true, if you admit to it, he'll start exaggerating. We don't want that.
When I want to talk to my boyfriend, I become scared that he'll become upset and leave me. so i write down anything that comes to mind and all my feelings in a "letter" addressed to him. then i wait til were on good terms again, and i go read the letter. Because we'll be on good terms, Ill be able to think clearly and remove the parts id rather he didn't hear/read. then i edit the letter and bring it to his attention. My bf really appreciates it, even if there is the occasion where hes a bit upset at first.

Ok Ok im sorry ive been giving advice and not thoughts. But i was Just writing whatever came to mind. Hope you can use a piece of it for yourself Good luck