What would you think of someone who had only 43 facebook friends?

[Bookworm]

I feel like I have so few facebook friends compared to all of my other friends, who have at least a hundred (if not hundreds) of friends. I don't have many facebook friends because I'm really shy and introverted. I don't talk to that many people in general, so I don't really have that many friends in real life either.

It becomes a problem when I'm trying to friend new people I meet on facebook. I always end up wondering what they'd think of me and my low number of friends, so I usually end up not friending them at all due to my insecurity. But because I never friend people, my friends list always remains low, so it's a vicious cycle.

I kind of want to delete my facebook. Being on it depresses me, and I don't really post much on there either, but it's useful for keeping in touch with friends and for organizing events, so I don't know what to do.

Any suggestions for making more facebook friends? I don't want to just add random people I don't know.

[FlyingShoes]

Don't delete your facebook! (: People can't just judge you based on how many friends you have. Here is a suggestion: You can try going on facebook and post something like "Hey I havent been on facebook for a while so yeah" something like that hoep this helps!!! ](: best answer plz!

[Samantha]

My first thought would be that they are a private person. Not to mention, everyone starts at zero. It also depends how old you are (you've met fewer people when you are younger)... I have friends with 2000 some friends, but they're only close to about 30, and only know a few hundred. Some people friend request every person they ever went to school with, played sports with, meet out, etc. Some people friend request people they don't know, or accept friend requests from strangers. This is not a safe thing to do, and I do not recommend it. I'm guessing you're younger. I'm 23, and all my friends are mid-20s. Most of us are now going through and deleting almost everyone we don't feel we wouldn't want to talk to again. A lot of young people act like facebook is a huge popularity contest, and it's not. If you find someone you want to be friends with, friend request them...don't worry about the quantity, worry about the quality.

BTW - facebook is linked to depression. If you ever study behavioral reinforcement, you will understand this better, but notifications and likes are like rewards for your brain. You anticipate them and hope that further using facebook will give you more notifications. When you don't get notifications (or you're on so often you don't notice how many you get), this is a form of punishment and you'll feel depressed. I wouldn't delete your account if it can help you keep in touch with old friends.

[Friendlycub337]

those people arent there friends they are just addicted to clicking the friend button

[Shaun Hazon]

I fail to see that you have a problem as such. I have a facebook page and use it mainly to keep in touch with my closest friends and family, do not be confused with the word FRIENDS, Apart from immediate family and close friends a lot of the friends people have on facebook are just someone they have accepted onto their page, they probably don't even know any of these people personally so how can they call them friends?
Remember real friends are the ones who are there for you in your times of need and you in turn are there for them,real friendship comes from the heart, do not be impressed with pseudo friends or cyber friends
Anyway the real question is What do you want from your Facebook? You are not in a competition you do not judge a persons popularity from facebook. your facebook page is a personal thing and you have created it to reflect your comfort zone.
Be happy with true friends and family, love them and care for them as they love and care for you, if you are a naturally shy person be proud of yourself for knowing who you are. Trust me there are a lot of people living behind their facebook persona's because they still do not love themselves enough to accept who they are so they can live their lives in a happy and warm environmentment.

Hey be proud of who you are and do not worry what others think, you are unique be happy with it