I did not mean to hurt my friend what do i do?

[Kim]

one night, i called a friend that is my favorite person in the world. I wanted to tell him that I had lost my sobriety and wanted to come back to him and his clean and sober friends. My other friend dialed the number and then someone asked me if I wanted a shot of tequilla and I said yes. Then when I tried to tell my friend that I needed help someone else began to shout obscenities at him and in defense of my friend I shouted obscenities back. I over focused on getting back at the person who began to shout out vulgar words and I lost my focus on my friend that i wanted to ask to let me come back to his clean and sober group of friends.; The phone call infuriated my clean and sober friend and he went over there to get me out and he told the people there that we was going to hurt me because of the phone call, so the people i was drinking with tried to beat him up. Later on my brother told me about it and said I did not remember because i was so drunk, but he said enough detail that only someone who was there would know, so i know he did talk to my sober friend. However, when i tried to talk to my sober friend he denied the whole thing and he wont talk to me. He has blocked me from facebook, taken his videos off of his web site, tells others not to give me any information about him and wont return an e mail. I just want to apologize, make it up to him and tell him what happened but he never wants to see my face again. Ive thought about writing a letter to my friend who originally just wanted to help me get back to a clean and sober group in hopes that shell help again, but she has no connection to my friend except through me and he probably will never speak to me again because he almost got beat up because of me and the vulgar language was horrible What can I do? I feel so bad. Im so ashamed of myself and so sorry that my very dear friend was hurt. Is there anything i can do to make it up to him?

[Frankie]

first of all, you need to focus on getting sober than worrying about your friends. why would you even bother wanting to be friends with that person if he said he was angry about the phone call and wanted to hurt you? FRIENDS DO NOT HURT EACH OTHER. he needs to understand that you are having an addiction problem and that you need as much support as you can get. if he can't support you emotionally then he cannot be your friend. especially after blocking you from fb, he is clearly showing he doesnt want to be friends anymore. get sober, make a new life, go to church, make new friends, and find the Lord Jesus.

[Boss]

Hello,

Recently, I got into a bad scrape with someone and, I'll admit for all of my "preaching" about how people have to try and communicate and forgive, I was going to hold a grudge and delete that person and on and on like that. But then, that person sent me a novel of an e-mail telling me just about everything that was on their mind, apologies and what they were thinking and what they've gone through that lead up to the confrontation we'd had, just everything. They titled the e-mail "Read all the way to the end and then wait 10 minutes to think." I didn't have to wait those ten minutes, it was more like 3, because then I realized where we went wrong. I knew then that it was my turn to write a novel and tell my side of things, dispel wrong notions, and forgive. It's fine now. I think it's your turn to write a novel, not just apologies and begging forgiveness if that's what you've been doing, but tell the story of your struggle and why things happened the way they did. It's not for pity or sympathy, it's for clarification and understanding. You've got to let your dear friend know that you never wanted things to turn out how they did, that you are sorry, and tell him what happened, not just that night but for the many nights before too. Let him know you don't want it to end, especially not like this. Then it's up to him to understand or not. I hope this helps and that he gives you a response. And good luck to you on the road to cleaning yourself up