Question on making friends...?

[shay]

Hi. Well, first of all, I'm really shy, it took me nearly a week to persuade myself to do this, so here goes. I hate the word, but it's the only one I can think of to describe me without rambling on about black hair and skinny jeans. Emo. No, I do not cut myself, and yes I do sometimes get sad as I am pretty much alone in this thing. It started when I was listening to Katy Perry, on YouTube, when I accidentally clicked on the wrong song and I ended up listening to The Final Episode, by Asking Alexandria, I loved it from the beginning, I had already grew tired of pop music, and this was all new to me. I began wearing 'Emo' clothes, and started listening to loads of rock music and I love Screamo the most. As time went on, my friends began laughing at me and playing about and tagging me as 'The Emo One' on those Tag Your Friends things on Facebook, which didn't bother me and it still doesn't. But now I have noticed that they are tired of me, not giving me much thought. I would tag along with them, but they would never talk to me anymore, so I began sitting behind the school gates, just writing and drawing pictures during break and dinnertime. They never noticed that I left. I'm the only one (that I know of) In my school that goes along with this 'trend'. A few weeks ago, I got fed up of spending my time alone, so I went into town, and there is a spot in Town which everyone calls "Emoville" as this is where all of the Goths, Emo's, Punk's, Scenes..etc. (I hate stereotyping people, I do apologise) Hang out. Well they all had their own little groups. Basically, what I want to know is, how do I get them to notice me? Or how do I begin talking to them? Also, I am afraid that they will just turn me away, plus the fact that I have low self esteem and I am very shy. Please help, I hate being alone.

[Kiki]

i may not be mush help but i understand what you mean im pretty much im vice versa i cut but i am bright and bubbly. The advice i can give you on getting them to notice you is to just be yourself. Share your thoughts and opinions ask for their opinions and do this with a totally open mind and trust me im sure there will be people that will notice you about those girls ignore them they arent worth your time truth is they are insecure of themselves you found a piece of you that you like they havent so to cover that up they ridicule other people that have hope i helped

[Lily Hayson]

Okay, you have to move one from your 'friends'. There has got to be somebody who will not judge you based on appearance or what music you like, and all you have to do is find them.
As for 'Emoville', just find the group that you think you would fit in most, and just say 'Hi.'
At least, that's what I usually do. I know what it's like to be alone. But you'll get along fine, just make sure you stay yourself!

[Erika]

Hello love, I want you to know, you are perfect. I know, everyone says "everyone is a special snowflake" but I'm in the same boat as you, and making friends is very, very hard. It's not just you. Making friends is really, really hard, but the most important thing is to be yourself. Do not change so you will be accepted, because if you pretend to be someone you're not, they won't accept you for you, they'll accept you for who you pretend. They sound like people who know the pain you're going through, so I am absolutely positive they will bring you in. But in case they don't, it's okay. it's not the end. You are an amazing person, and people are lucky to have you as a friend. Please, keep your head up. You sound like an awesome person, and from a fellow lover of heavy metal, you rock~

If you ever need to talk, just email me at lipferi14@jcpatriot.org, okay? I promise to help in any way I can. I hope things go well!

[Aled]

Mate, just bite the bullet and start talking to one of them. Aim for a friendly looking one, maybe not a punk! ;-) They'll have the same interests as yourself so conversation should be relatively easy. Don't try too hard, just be yourself and be proud of the fact you're unique and not one of those boring carbon copy people who ignore you at school.

[millie]

I feel the same way, my two friends at school don't hang out with me much. And if they are not at school or in one of my lessons im alone i also find it hard to talk to people i feel like no one likes me.
Well anyway just do it talk to them and remember you not the only one who feels that way. Also try talking to your old friends tell them how you feel.