How to let go of a controlling and emotionally abusive relationship?

[Aimee]

I know I have asked this before hand but Please help me! I don't want advice on how to win my ex back, I just want to know WHY he is messing with my head like this.My ex and I were together for two years and broke up two months ago, because he mom verbally and emotionally abused me (she called me thoughtless, malcious and a f***king ***** who should rot in hell" because I let my ex's little brother choose what easter egg I bought him) Last week I saw him fro the first term when I came home from school, he returned my things. We hugged goodbye and he started shaking uncontrollably, I was worried. Then he said he just needed a hug from me and that he had missed me and was sorry. After that I saw him again, and he explained that he was confused because he didn't know if we had made the right choice to break up and that he still loved me and was still attracted to me. He admitted that he cried the night we broke up-he never cries not even at his grans funeral or his cats death. when we said goodbye he kissed me, and returned the next day to say goodbye (I was returning to school) to me. He had picked a flower for me and he kissed me again and said he loved me. I just do not know what he wants from me. I mean the day we broke up he went onto a dating site and updated his profile to "just released back on the block" then cried because he lost me that same night? Or kisses me goodbye and says he loves me the day I go back but that night my friends catch him hitting on other girls? I really love him, I think I may be madly in love with him, but it was the most controlling and abusive relationship I have ever been in. I know I need to move on with my life, but when he kisses me I feel like we could try again (though I know that would be a bad idea). Please help what does he want from? Does he really want to try again? Does he really miss me? Is he confused? Or is he just trying his luck?

I saw him again today, after a few weeks again. He had hit on a friend of mine in front of me, and I told him while I am happy that he is moving on, if he was in my shoes he would not want to see me hit on another guy in front of him. and it is disrespectful to me. I also told him that while I could be friends with him, I could not do it if he tried to push me away and hurt me, and that if he wanted me out his life I was happy to go. He of course told mommy dearest and she promplty posted on facebook "YOU WIN-Allow me some evil delight" Ah I feel angry, because they've had nothing but bad happen and I've gotten promotion after promotion but I lost the break-up? Because I am nice and they are evil? But in the irony is, when I said goodbye to him today, he still kissed me. AGAIN! So please, I don't think I want him back but I want to know what he wants from me! Please help! Thank you!

[bAbY-GaL]

Moveee onn sistah...

[Faby]

His family is crazy leave them alone and stop letting him kiss you

[Emily]

It sounds to me like he's just playing games move on find someone else who will make you happy Cause with this guy you don't sound to happy.

[Nikita]

It helps to have some support of close friends, family members or even a professional counselor. Also, you can fill your life with other things hobbies, work, friends, books ect. You can try online dating just to see who else is out there. Be firm about your decision and stick with don't go back to him at all if you are afraid to talk to him in person send him an email or tell him over the phone.

[Nikita]

You can't control his erratic behavior or his evil mother, but you can control how you allow them to treat you. Best defense against his mom: Don't be there. No contact. Block her on FB. Don't even make it possible to read her posts, if you can. As for him - be strong. Don't be so focused on finding out what he's thinking. Just stop letting him treat you so horribly. Next time he tries to kiss you, tell him to stop. Tell him he's being cruel, breaking up with you & still keeping you dangling like that. That's selfish & mean and you need to set some boundaries and not allow him to treat you like that anymore.

[Taylor]

Just think the whole situation through because you don't want to always be thinking... What if....?
and about him always kissing you, next time, push him away and say "Sorry but I'm not interested anymore."

but his mum is crazy like theres no question there! so block his insane mum on facebook!