I'm just over this. I feel like my kindness has been taken advantage of. This isn't friendship?

[misssopinionated]

She's always been pretty snobby/stuck-up/self-righteous (and we've drifted apart a lot recently) and she always finds a way to subtley tell me I'm inferior to her (whether it's intentional or not). Anyway... we were talking about a mutual friend that I liked (a long long LONG time ago) and she said "Well, I know T likes me but he's really full of himself..." Yadayadayada. First of all, she thinks the world revolves around her and her problems so they'd be perfect together. Second, he was our mutual best friend but I haven't talked to him in a while because we just don't run in the same circles anymore. Third, I don't really care what he's up to. She can go after him if she wants, I'm honestly completley over that and I've moved on. But my point is, I'm just like, well why are you even bringing this up? To make me jealous or rub it in my face that he has a thing for you and I never had a chance with him? Why bring it up when I've been over that for like three years? It just doesn't make since. I barely even talk to him anymore and I've moved on anyway. She just seems to be very inconsiderate latley. Posting pictures of her and her new best friend. Posting facebook statuses about how she's the best friend she ever had (what am i, chopped liver) and how no one else can compare. We've drifted apart and she's practically replaced me with her new best friend. She shuts me out, she acts like she's perfect and diminishes my accomplishments so she can feel like she's better than me. She can never be wrong about anything and belittles my accomplishments. For example, I got straight A's for the very first time and she said "Well you had all english classes and you got out early for work study." Then, another time, when she knows I was working my tail off to get a senior trip together, we were talking about the senior banquet and she said "Isn't the senior class president supposed to plan that?" No, it wasn't my job by the way. She was just trying to embarass me or something. It rubbed me the wrong way. She also ditched our group of girls to hang out with her new best friend on prom night and went dress shopping with her and ditched us when we were all supposed to go together. When I got mad that she was treating her friends like an option, she called me jealous. But really, I'm just hurt. I'm hurt that you can care about someone so much and you think you actually mean something to them and they treat you like you're discardable or a choice and are only there for you when it's cnvinient to them. Every chance she gets she rubs it in everyone's face that she's homecoming queen and valedictorian and she has a superior relationship to God that I'll never have and she makes straight A's. She lost all of this weight and she came back as a completley different person this year. Our friendship isn't salvagable at this point but I do miss her. She tries to put tha blame on me and call me jealous, but I don't think it's unreasonable to get upset when a friend treats you poorly. I'm just ready to move on at this point. She makes me feel low and inferior, like I'll never measure up to her. Just because I wasn't the homecoming queen doesn't mean she's better than me or anyone else. I just need someone to make me feel better. I feel like this friendship has completley screwed with my mind. I miss the old her but I can accept that things change and people just drift apart. I just need someone to tell me I'm not completley crazy for walking away. I feel like I'll go insane if I don't.
I'm class president by the way and she was my best friend

[Meghan]

I read your whole post. I'm sorry that she's a bad friend - you don't deserve that. The best thing for you to do is forget about your friendship and try to strengthen your friendships with your other friends! When she is feeling down, she'll come to you someday and you can decide then whether or not she's worthy of your care. But for now, focus on yourself...And don't hang around someone that brings you down.

[Jenn]

No your not insane. I would've done the same thing in a heartbeat. Good job to you because she doesn't deserve your kindness. Let her be snobby. But being well known as valedictorian and queen and yadayaydayda doesn't make her a better person.