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LeaveALightOn.. · 11-09-2012, 01:38 PM

Sudden unexplained unfriending on facebook?
A former work colleague I was friends with, but havent seen in nearly 3 yrs did this recently, we were not close friends, but did get along when we did meet up, even if it was not often..

I did nothing to offend her or make her upset! she just suddenly unfriended me a few weeks ago and has blocked me from searching for her, (i tried once just to see if she was still on FB.) I guess its better to only be friends with ppl you would actually talk to in person ( but.. and... yes.. this may sound weird) i still felt a little hurt though, as to wy she did it, guess she was "cleaning out her FB freinds" as we all should do I guess. I dont have her phone number anymore, which is fine, we have lost contact over the years, as ppl do.

so am just wondering..

does unfriending suddenly make you feel hurt or rejected? why? should i feel hurt or just forget it and move on, as i am now doing.. what if I accidently meet her in person one day? be polite.. as i will be.
thnks

NO nasty answers needed
A former work colleague I was friends with, but havent seen in nearly 3 yrs did this recently, we were not close friends, but did get along when we did meet up, even if it was not often..

I did nothing to offend her or make her upset! she just suddenly unfriended me a few weeks ago and has blocked me from searching for her, (i tried once just to see if she was still on FB.) I guess its better to only be friends with ppl you would actually talk to in person ( but.. and... yes.. this may sound weird) i still felt a little hurt though, as to wy she did it, guess she was "cleaning out her FB freinds" as we all should do I guess. I dont have her phone number anymore, which is fine, we have lost contact over the years, as ppl do.

so am just wondering..

does unfriending suddenly make you feel hurt or rejected? why? should i feel hurt or just forget it and move on, as i am now doing.. what if I accidently meet her in person one day? be polite.. as i will be.
thnks

NO nasty answers needed
I am just asking a question,and getting opinions, genuine answers appreciated
@ ring very true, but it still feels a bit weird.. dont know why.
dont do any of those things, my life is quiet, and.. i dont go on and on about me or my life..

Ring0Rosie · 11-09-2012, 01:46 PM

You haven't seen him/her in three years.... Thus, you are not friends.

No need to over think it.

Others reasons to block and unfriend:
-you post a bunch of cartoons or sayings you think are funny
-you like stupid company pages, filling your friends feed with spam
-you send to many app requests
-political views/ too much drama
-unprofessional stuff that's nsfw

EvilWoman0913 · 11-09-2012, 01:46 PM

People unfriend others for many reasons. I've accidentally unfriended people when I was cleaning house, so maybe she didn't mean to unfriend you. Are you sure her account is even still active? I don't get offended at all when someone drops me from their friends list. I just go on and don't worry about it.

noodles · 11-09-2012, 01:46 PM

If I'm not mistaken the brain is actually wired to feel rejection as an almost physical pain. Don't quote me on that though I don't know where I got it from.

But yeah it's not odd to feel upset even though you weren't really friends with her or anything. It's a natural response to the situation. Just try to think about it logically. You know you weren't really friends with her. You know you didn't really talk or hang out or anything. And honestly even if it was something you did that offended her do you really care? Is it really worth losing sleep over that your personality upset someone you're not even close with? Some people's viewpoints and personalities don't mix and while you may not have done anything wrong she just might not have liked some of the opinions you expressed and that's okay.

I actually did this to a girl I went to school with. We never really talked or commented on each others status updates. She was a staunch conservative republican and while I don't care that she believes that way I also don't want to feel the itching need to get into a political war every time I look at my news feed. So I unfriended her. No bad to her we just didn't mesh in any way shape or form.

I've also done this to people who don't really talk to me, and post things that I find dull or irrelevant. I see no reason to be friends with them on a social networking site if we're barely going to talk or interest each other.

So yeah don't take it personally because it's probably not.

AM7112009 · 11-09-2012, 01:46 PM

you haven't seen each other in 3 yrs and lost contact, if you're friends with each other you would make contact with each other occasionally. i wouldn't worry about it.

steepman032 · 11-09-2012, 01:46 PM

Maybe she deactivated her accounts.

? · 11-09-2012, 01:46 PM

she probably deactivated her account...there will be no trace of her, so it will appear that she deleted you and blocked you....way to find out is make a new fb page and search for her name..but that isn't always fool proof because some people take their name out of the search as well. you could also try to find a mutual friend you to shared, and see if she is still on their friend list..if not, it's almost guaranteed she deleted her fb.