How Do I Talk To a Girl When Alone With her?

[jonny]

HI im 15 and i have been talking to this girl i realy like, mostly on facebook and MSN though. When we are at school we are rarely alone because of the croudedness of it.
Tomorrow i am going into town and only she can come , i need to know how to talk to her so we dont have any awkward silences.

Any Help.

[e.m.m.a]

Start with talking about school, because you both definately have that in common,
Then bring up something about annoying brother or sister or cousin etc,
E.g. "Argh you know my brother is so..."
Then you'll be talking of allsorts.
Let the conversation carry on from there!

Remember to not go mad and talk about everything, take time to listen to her.

[Steve Rogers]

Well obviously there are no magic answers, because you are an individual and so is she. So if I give a list of what I would talk about, it might not be right for you.

However, after many, many years of dating and being pretty good with women now, I STILL take some time PREPARING when I am going to see a woman I really want to win over.

When you are with her, your feelings will be powerful and you will be distracted by how much you like her and what she makes you feel. That can crowd out your brain and make it harder to think straight.

WHY do guys act dumb around women? Easy. 80% of your brain is focused on how amazed you are at her and how much you are enjoying her. That leaves only 20% of your brain free to do normal things like talking.

Spend some time today thinking about some good topics that you can talk about. Look for some interesting things in the news or on the 'net tha tyou can tell her about.... especially if it relates in any way to things she is interested in. If she has shared her interests, do some searches for anything new or interesting about things she is interested in.

Get some jokes together. Make sure you can remember them.

Then spend some time rehearsing in your mind how you would talk about these things, and imagine how great it will be when she reacts well.

Now, when you see her DO NOT slavishly spit out these topics like a script. Put them in the back of your mind.

I have gone on dates when I ended up using NONE of the topics I had prepared ahead of time. Or we talked naturally for hours before I turned to some of my prepared topics.

It is always better to OPEN UP YOUR EYES and look around and talk about your surroundings. People you see. They look funny doing what they are doing (but don't be mean). What's going on around you? Funny signs. I like that building, it looks cool. I don't like that one they should tear it down. Etc., etc.

But if you find yourself wondering what to talk about next, you KNOW that you have half a dozen points ready.

You can relax and be more confident knowing that you have some "back up" ready to go if you need it.

And of course ask her about herself. Ask what she thinks. If she is shy, show real interest. Make her feel that you really want to know her opinions, her feelings, what she is doing.

And don't forget "Getting to know you questions" like what would be your favorite vacation? What's your favorite animal?

[Debra B]

Actually if she is really into you she will take the lead and do the talking but you just talk to her about school, your interests etc and everything will be ok. Just be yourself.

[Positive P]

Positive.

[Falling to pieces]

Ask her questions, especially about herself- girls LOVE to talk about themselves! Things in general are good to, like whats in the news, TV shows and stuff like that- it'll help you get to know her. If she freezes up talk about yourself- family and hobbies- we love to here stuff like that it makes you seem more human. XX