What do you think about a mother that keeps her children from seeing their father , until the child is.......?

[FINISHEDWAITING]

brain washed into believing that the father doesn't love or want to see them.

[Rob Peters]

Not good. Go to court and get court ordered visitation. Always speak kindly of your ex even though you won't feel the kindness.

[ShriekingDreamer650]

I think there are 2 kinds of mothers in a scenario like that. Mothers that hold the kids as leverage to spite the father. And the mother that tries to protect her children from a father that martyrs himself to the public but in reality doesn't give a shit about the kids.

[siria]

don't just blame the mother, the father is at fault too, if he really wants to see the kids, he can get help from the courts or a lawyer

[immensespot882]

In 1988, in opposition of an amendment to the Revised Child Support Enforcement Act, Democrats in Congress got a funding bill passed to have the US Dept. of Health & Human Services conduct a 50-state study to show that fathers wanted no relationship with their children following a divorce.

They were opposing an amendment that would establish a $10 million grant to the states to set up "Expedited Procedures To Enforce Court Ordered Access Rights". This was in response to a growing number of fathers claiming their were being denied access to their children while feminists were claiming they were not, and that the men only wanted to abuse the mothers.

So, the HHS received funding to do an initial summary study of five states, with more funding once that was completed to do the rest of the US. The "Survey of Absent Parents" was a sampling of divorce case files, in which children were involved, extending back ten years, to determine if there had been any filings to enforce access rights on behalf of the non-custodial parents, which in the 80s was the father in 97% of the cases.

When the summary was presented to the Congressional Committee overseeing the study, it was decided that no further funding would be issued to continue the study. The reason? The preliminary results did not meet the intended goals for the study.

The results showed that in 60% of the cases, the father had filed for enforcement of his access rights within six months of the initial court orders. However, despite repeated filings, within five years, 90% of those fathers all had lost all contact with their children. In many cases, it was costing the father $2000 in legal and court fees for each time their saw their children.

The amendment to the 1988 Child Support Enforcement Act was passed.

Studies in recent years have placed the rate at 40%, but currently, 15% of the time the fathers have custody of the children.

States like Kansas and Missouri partook in the grants, with two different approaches. Kansas set up a procedure to enforce the access rights, through the simple filing of forms with the Clerk of the Court Office. A hearing is set within 30 days of the filing, and No Attorneys are allowed, just the parents.

However, they do not advertise the fact.

In Missouri, an amendment was passed to RSMO 565.156, the Child Abduction Law, making it a felony to deny the other parent their court ordered access rights. However, since it’s passage in 1989, Missouri County Prosecutors have refused to enforce it.

Much is the same in other states. In Michigan, the custodial parent can lose their driver’s license, yet no judge is willing to order it.

Denial of access is a problem, and fathers do need to learn how to enforce their rights.
http://squidoo.com/DenyingFathersAccessToTheirChildren

This problem is continuing, and resulting in the problems we are having in society as a result.
http://squidoo.com/Children-Of-Separated...e104735811

Fortune Magazine - Fatherless Families & Crime
"Ominously, the most reliable predictor of crime is neither poverty nor race but growing up fatherless."
http://money.cnn.com/magazines/fortune/f.../index.htm

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http://www.crckids.org/
For 22 years, I have volunteered my time working with divorced/single fathers dealing in family law issues, such as child support, teaching them about what the states are not telling support obligors.
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[Summer]

I think a lot of women do that because their relationship with that man did not work out so they feel as if the only way they can fully move on is if they lose all contact...Personally I believe if the child isn't in any harm they should be allowed to at least visit...But if I were them I would think more reasonably because when their children reaches their teenage years or young adulthood, they start to look for answers, and most feel like they need closure in order to move forward in life.