How long should it take to grive?

[Hafza]

If ur mum, dad, sister, brother died, how long would/should it take for someone to possibly smile or laugh again? And to go back to things like watching TVs and going on Facebook etc....
My friends mum died and she was back on Facebook two days later, with very casual status updates and photos etc..

[harwarda]

Everyone deals with grief in their own way. If your friend is trying to deny how unhappy she is, she may actually be more affected for a longer time. Never assume that you know someone's internal pain by their outer demeanor.
Most people smile at the funeral- when they remember what they loved about the person. Don't expect people who have experienced a loss not to smile or laugh for any particular period of time. Grief tends to come in waves- you can be fine and functioning normally one minute, and sobbing the next. Some people do their sobbing privately, while other people are very public about it.

[Dorothy Rose]

There is this old adage in Psychology/Mental Health that Counselors will often say, "You fake it until you make it." It kind of sounds like your friend is doing just that. Unless there were some major problems in the relationship between your friend and her mom, chances are good that she is hurting really bad right now. Everyone grieves in their own way and everyone comes to acceptance and heals at their own rate. No, I do not believe that your friend has gone through all Five Stages in Grief and is now healed in just two days; that is unrealistic! However, some people have a terrible time coping; they fake like things alright and throw themselves into other activities in order to not have to face the reality of what is going on in their lives. It sounds like your friend is doing this now; she is probably unsure of where to turn to and how to grieve, etc. Of course she needs to deal with her feelings so that she can learn how to cope and learn how to eventually move forward, but for next few days, just let her behave in the way that is currently. Give it about a week before you ask her if she wants to talk about what happened- yell, scream, cry, whatever. She'll come around and will grieve in all the normal ways, but it has to be on her time.