Should a woman give up custody of her child?

[wohoozit]

-she's a loving mother
-the father loves the child as well
-there are no other choices
-money has nothing to do with it

what do you think? is it wrong or right? I know all situations are different so know this before you answer.

[Dex]

It depends. There's not enough information here to give any constructive advice. For instance, if she wants to move away then she should give up custody as like you said, the father is a loving father and he shouldn't miss out on seeing his child grow up and being part of their life just because she thinks she's going to get a better life somewhere else. Fathers often get a raw deal and it's not fair.

This may not be why you are asking if she should give up custody though. There are too many different scenarios which would all get different advice and opinions.

[KellyB]

A loving Mother would do what is is in the best interest of the child, and his/her future. Sometimes the hardest decisions to make tear your heart apart, but when faced with no alternatives, do what is best for the child. The child's whole life depends on your decision, and yes there are circumstances where we do have to do things that are often frowned upon by others....worry not what they think, but the child is and should be your only concern. Best of luck to you in this very difficult decision...thank you.....K

[Desirae Rose]

The two should have equal custody of the child, and stop treating it as a shirt instead of a living being.

[lala]

Absolutely under no circumstances should a women give up her child. I've had my ups and downs with my daughter who is now 7. I have struggled financially, struggled with living situations but I look back and say my daughter went through it all with me.

[Gembird]

She should do whatever is right for the child. If that happens to be living with his/her father, then so be it. In the end, the child should come first.

[George McCasland]

In 1996, Cosmopolitan Magazine did a world wide survey of it's readers, nearly 100% women, on what would make them happy. Among the question was one that in the even of a custody issue involving their children, would they be happier having or not having custody? Over 60% said they would be happier not having custody, but feared the conclusions of society as to why they didn't.

Of interest, much of our society is accepting of a woman having abortions rights, but see something wrong with them not having custody of their children.
http://apps.facebook.com/opinionpolls/po...1253737764

Personally, I promote Bird Nest Custody.
http://tinyurl.com/BirdNestCustody2
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[fatfrog543]

We lived through this personally. The mother had two other kids already when she had her youngest, he was 4 at the time of our custody battle.

It all started when the mom finally got a job but it was as a waitress so she sent her youngest to live with my husband (the dad) and me every weekend, which is when she could make the most money. Then it turned into Thursday-Monday. Then it turned into Thursday-Tuesday. On her days off she spent them shopping and catching up with friends, and ultimetly the children suffered. She sent her middle child to live with his dad, and kept the only girl at the house, she was 11 and mostly took care of herself.

This went on for several months, and all the while we payed her child support. One of her days we begged her to take him to the doctor, his cold was getting so much worse! She refused to take him, she said it was just a cold and he was doing fine on the Nyquil (yes she gave the 4 year old Nyquil). She refused to give us the insurance information so we could take him, finally we paid $200 out of pocket to the doctor and CVS. It turned out that he did have walking pnemonia and pink eye both of which you need real medicine for.

She seemed to need someone to watch her other 2 kids more and more, which we did for a bit, a few times it turned into over night, but some days we had plans and couldn't she got really upset and told us we couldn't see the 4 year old if we didn't take the other 2....I call that blackmail. I urged my husband to seek custody.

When school started she had moved 2 times in 6 months and wasn't set up for the bus route and had to drive the 3 kids to school....in one school year her kids were late over 150 times each!!!

By the time we got to court and we had proof that she didn't make her son's health or school a priority, and we had a bunch of other instances where she put herself first and not the child...well, we didn't even have to go in front of the judge, she gave up custody.

It was obvious that our household is where this child was going to be treated like the wonderful little person he is, and made a top priority in our lives, as children should be. We tried to be as nice as possible and recomended she have every other week in the summer, not just 2 weeks, and gave her extended vacation time. But everyone involved knew that while she loved her little boy in her own way, the best thing for him was to let him go. She didn't even realize how bad of a mom she was being, not having had a good mom herself. she thought she was doing okay, but having it all broken down for her on how she has failed this child.....she simply gave up.

So, should a woman give up custody of her child.....if that is what the child needs in order to have a better life, a more fulfilling life, a life where he feels special and wanted..... then YES she should give up her child in a heartbeat.