should a custodial parent receive child support if they refuse visitation ?

[lady diezydog]

easy question should a custodial parent be granted child support if they refuse to allow contact and visitation with non custodial?
i understand a need for child support in some cases not denying that but some custodial parents without cause refuse to allow other parent visitiation and treat them strictally like a pay check. i want to know how many of u think if this happens if child support should cease. or what the punishment to custodial parent should be for acting in this manner

[Evie Meier]

Every child needs monetary support to grow up with. Child support should be paid because it is within the law and there is a life that needs it. There could be some issues there depending on the background of one case (unfairly being denied visitation etc.), but whatever the law dictates is what should happen.

[J.J]

They should still receive the money. The money is for the child's well being and the child should not be used as a pawn. Keeping the non-custodial from contacting and or visiting may be in the best of the child. I would support that provided it is court ordered. Financial support however should never stop and in no way should the child be used as a pawn for support payments to continue. If the parent takes it upon themselves to keep the non-custodial from visiting/contacting the child, the matter should be decided in a court of law.

[mredsgal]

If there is a child support order in place then you have to pay. Is there a visitation order? If yes, call the police, if no, go to court and get one.

[Just Thinking]

Personally I think thats the old cliche having your cake and eating it, the truth is that while the children are supposed to benefit from the money the custodial parent decides where it is to be spent and how. Refusal to allow the non-custodial parent have access (without a court order preventing the non-custodail parental access) in my book is a good enough reason to withhold the money. Rarely do children, who are being used as pawns in a chess game get anything out of this type of nastiness except and understanding of how cruel adults can be.

Further to my comments, and yes they are based on anger because as a non custodial nanna who rarely sees her grandson and helps her son pay child support I know that the money is going up the veins of his mother, its easy to critise someones answer when you dont know the whole story, having said that I know it would appear free to all for holding back payments and no thats not what I meant and in hindsight it would be best to say simply take them to court dont withhold the money and know in your heart that eventually Karma will catch up with them....I have never withheld money even though I know where its going because I know to anger this witch means I would lose my grandson altogether! There is no punishment for these parents an apparently Im not allowed my opinion in this forum which is sad but at least you know why I feel the way I do!

[Kourtney]

Yes child support is a totally separate issue from visitation. Both has to be ordered from a judge separately. If one parent doesn't allow the other parent to see the child then there must be a really good reason for it and the parent who has the child can take it up with the courts and prove the other parent unfit if they see fit. Regardless of the circumstances, it's not about using someone for a paycheck, they laid down and helped make that baby and they should have to help pay for it's expenses. PERIOD!

[lowbeam397]

Over 40% of those getting child support deny the other parent access to the children, so it is not just some. The rates are down from 1990 when it was 60% according to the HHS study, Survey of Absent Parents.

It does cost society far more for fatherless children than all the child support owed.
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Though generally the one is not linked to the other, one can petition the court to freeze the payment pending resolution of access rights. IN Missouri, that can be done through the child support enforcement office.

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[Lexie]

In my opinion, the court has no place in determining the future of most children of divorce. Parents should get over their hangups and work together to create a reasonable schedule to share time with the children. Time with each parent should be equal and no child support would be necessary because both would have to clothe, feed, shelter, and provide utilities for the child.

My husband was supposed to have his older kids 42% of the time and was still ordered to pay $600/month, but why? For the 8% of the time the court decided he didn't need to be with them? I can only imagine the cost of her getting full custody then. Absolutely disturbing. To make matters worse, he has been denied visitation and even phone calls for several years. The police won't do anything. Only the court will do something about it in that state, but the judge is prejudiced, and only the custodial parent can move the case so that won't happen--he's asked her several times. She has done everything to help him get screwed out of his kids but we had to fight to keep him out of jail last year. It doesn't even matter to them that he has another child who lives under his roof and needs him. She doesn't need money. She needs her daddy, and they threatened to take him away from her for the sake of a vile woman who never lets him see or talk to his kids and has finally succeeded in poisoning them against him. Now they want nothing to do with him, but they expect expensive gifts and other financial contributions still. How spoiled they are already. They'll grow up to be just like their mother. It's just so sad.

My mother got full custody of me and didn't ask for or expect a dime from my father because as far as she was concerned, the court decided that I was no longer his child. In a sense, that was true. If he was to have nothing to do with me, to have no part or say in raising me, why would he have to pay for it? She wanted full control and that's what she got. She accepted the full financial burden too. It only made sense.

[Opinionated]

support is not extortion for visitation
the law sees these as two different issues,you cannot stop payments

[bleuroze]

That will work as soon as two wrongs start making a right.

In the meantime, just because one parent denies their child access to the other parent, doesn't mean the other parent should deny their child financial support.

Remember, it's not about retaliation against the parent, it's about the child. Small minded people only see the other parent, they forget the child in the middle.