Is my boyfriend cheating or talking to someone else?

[bailey]

I caught my boyfriend talking to one of his exs the other day. Now when I try confronting him about it, he gets defensive over her.

He is also accusing me of cheating or talking to someone else and demands my passwords to my Facebook and to see my phone whenever he wants, which is everytime I see him.

Whenever I try looking at his phone from the side or just when he's out of the room to see if he's still talking to his ex, he gets mad at me and threatens to leave me and calls me names and stuff.

[Rockinhunter]

Yep. He's cheating. Sorry. You should act like you trust him, though, because then he will relax more and then you'll catch him.

[Sarah]

You two need to sit down and just talk about it instead of just going back and forth accusing each other of cheating. And be honest with each other. It's not gonna be a healthy realtionship if you guys keep doing what your doing. So just talk about it. Tell him that you don't apprciate talking to his ex by the way. That's a big no no. He shouldnt' be talking to her. And he shouldn't be calling you names, but you gotta trust him enough to not look at his phone. Yes I know super hard, but if you guys talk and neither one of you is cheating then you'll feel better about it! Hope that helped!

[Cookie monster]

Thats how my ex acted with me.
And he was cheating.
So yea he is most likely cheating.
I found out by not asking and then one day i saw them down in town and they were holding hands and kissing.
So it was over after that.
You should stop asking and just wait.

[Cheryl K]

Absolutely ALL men cheat, anyone who tells you different is lying. It might only be mentally but they cheat so get used to it. If you want this guy just put up with it and quit confronting him about it.However, he must Quit asking you for passwords etc.too. It's never going to happen. Neither of you trusts the other. Give it up.

[evol]

Firstly he has no right to demand your passwords or to look through your phone whenever he pleases. (Although there shouldn't be secrets between couples, everyone still has their right to privacy)

Secondly if he's defensive over his ex, he probably still has feelings for her (trust me, I've been the guy in this situation).. and he could also be trying to turn it around on you accusing you of cheating etc, in an effort to cover his own doings. But that's just speculation.

If he persists in demanding to see your phone or whatever, demand to see his or his Facebook! If he's not happy about it and threatens to leave, tell him go ahead. Tough love may be necessary, you don't deserve to be treated like that. If he does leave, he's obviously not worth your time anyway.

Good luck whatever you do