Why are there so many fatherless black boys?

[talldirt565]

Seriously, I work with kids teaching basketball. Black kids are always my favorite players, and not just because they are good. They are just so cool and funny and sweet. It makes me so sad/angry that a dad can leave such an amazing thing. Why? Why shouldn't I be mad?

[John Springstorm]

They are not fatherless. They could not be born without a Father. You are not helping them by feeling sorry for them or by othering them. All children are sweet, regardless of race.

The best thing you can do is to believe in them. Feeling mad will come across and help them feel as victims. You do not want to do this. You want them to call upon every bit of strength that they have and to use their talents. I am sure that you are doing this.

[King Troll]

You mean African Americans. It's not like that in other parts of the world. The majority of prison in the usa is full of black men. They don't have the same opportunities all the time.

work/
welfare/drug deal
homelesss/steal

The black schools are crap, they have no college fund and have bad influences daily in the ghetto. If their daddy isn't working then he probably wont be around.

[King Troll]

God put them in that position 4 a purpose

[Tiffany]

Black boys aren't the only race with no father in their lives. Many children have fathers and mothers that leave. You should be mad, but not only for the black boys. White boys AND girls, Indian boys and girls, Mexican boys and girls... have fathers that leave. Sorry to say it, but feeling sorry for them will not help in the least. When I was 4, my father (who was black) killed my mother (who was white.) Anytime I had a problem, it was blamed on the fact that I had no parents. So many people felt sorry for me for that reason. I was never Truly able to get help for anything that went on in my life because no one ever tried to find out what was actually wrong. Now, I'm extremely emotional and don't have a single person in the whole wide world who I consider a friend. I cry every time I get on Facebook because I think about the life I could have had if only someone had asked what was wrong, instead of telling me that all my problems rooted from not having parents.
So I suggest to you, stop feeling sorry or angry about these boys not having a dad, and just love them. They don't want your sorrow. They are most likely extremely strong boys, and completely used to the fact that their father is gone. It doesn't hurt them now like it did at first. People do get over things as big as that, especially if it happened a while ago. If they don't know their father, they may wonder what he was like, of if they are anything like him, etc. But the sadness/anger they felt, heals. Life does go on. Even for fatherless black boys.

[girlygirlgirly]

maybe in the black culture, it's not really emphasized how important it is and people just havent gotten to the point where it's a "bad" thing because it's so common.

[Hamburger]

This is a big problem in the United States because the government incentivizes single motherhood for poor women.

Many women are better off without their children's fathers, because then they qualify for welfare. Unmarried women with children get far more aid than married women, or women who are required to include their child's father's income/child support in their applications. Over time, this has created a culture in which it is not desirable to women to keep their children's fathers around, and one in which men do not feel guilty for relinquishing responsibility for their children. These women raise daughters who do not feel any stigma or anxiety about having children young and out of wedlock. They raise sons who do not feel that a father has an important place in a child's life. The cycle repeats.

[Daniel Tremblay]

The relationship is entirely different. In their culture the female just decides to have a child. It's not part of family structure. She just decides to have a child. Decides to get pregnant with who ever is available. I been there ! It's been offered. Love, marriage, family structure, situation, security. Has nothing to do with it ! It is solely her decision.
The white family structure of Love, marriage, get a home, build a nest egg, then start having kids. All that doesn't exist. She will just start having kids with whoever because SHE wants to. At any age.
This is not to offend. This how they think. A father other than a sperm donor is of zero importance. She does it all alone on her own. With or without a husband.