Impolite for bridesmaid to bring boyfriend who has an issue with both bride and groom?

[Meteor]

Bridesmaid's boyfriend deleted and blocked bride and groom off of Facebook because of a comment they made about boyfriend's parent's catering. Boyfriend is not talking to either bride or groom. Bridesmaid thinks it's okay to still bring him to the wedding. Bride thinks the guest will bring bad vibes. Is this acceptable?

[Hovenaut]

If this boyfriend was not explicitly invited by the bride or groom then it is not acceptable for him to be there.

[barthebear]

Listen to the bride. It should be her special day and that would not include him. If that means he will be mad at you, you definitely have to choose between him and your bridesmaid duties. If it were me, I think he has made a statement of what kind of person he is by the comment about the catering ( I havent read it but I presume it was rude?)

[Messykatt]

All of it sounds immature - using FB to attack others, asking idiots to be a bridesmaid, blocking people, blah blah. So there's blame to be spread around. The bride can try to morph into an adult and talk openly and honestly with her bridesmaid, but if the boyfriend has already been invited, it's not cool to rescind an invite.

[Rob]

If the boyfriend was already invited, you can't take away the invite, esp if his gf is in the bridal party. If you do exclude him, you'll be upsetting the gf and starting everything off on the wrong foot. The day is about the bride AND groom but also it's a party for the guests. Don't make the mistake of potentially ruining a friendship and a huge day over a comment about a catering company. The bride should rise above and focus on more important things, like the actual ceremony.

[Linda]

First of all, since they have him and people he knows as Facebook friends, it was rude of the couple to make such comments where they could be seen by them.

Second of all, it is not worth arguing with the bridesmaid about it. She's obviously a good enough friend that the bride gave her the honour of being a bridesmaid, so the bride owes it to her friend to talk to her and her boyfriend and work it out.

Quite frankly, it sounds like there is a lot of immaturity going on here (on both parts - blocking someone on Facebook is a really passive-aggressive way of dealing with it). The bride needs to rise above it, appologize for making the comments on Facebook, and work things out with her friend and the boyfriend.

[jollybirthday157]

The bridesmaid is allowed to bring a guest! It is rude to not allow her to bring a date. All adults over age 18 should be allowed to bring a date!
I suggest that you ask your friend for his number. Call him and apologize for upsetting him to settle this issue. Or send him an email or snail mail politely apology letter.
However no matter what you do he is allowed to attend unless he is planning on destroying your wedding. Ask your friend to tell you how your BF feels. Does he even want to attend still?

She has a right to bring her BF. He did nothing wrong. It sounds like you and your fiance did something wrong. Give him an apology and then everything will be better.

[Blunt]

Using facebook to air your matters?? Puhleaze. You all need to grow up.

Good luck

[my_2_cents]

If the bridesmaid has been allowed a plus one, the bride and groom cannot choose her guest for her. If the boyfriend was specifically invited, it would be rude to uninvited him. Perhaps the bride and groom should keep their thoughts about the boyfriend's parents' catering to themselves. Bride and groom shouldn't make negative comments, then be surprised when the boyfriend is offended.

[Paula]

If other guests' bfs/gfs are invited, then it is very rude to not invite this bridesmaid's bf. He's only one guest, he will hardly be noticed. Really, all he's done is stop talking to them, that's pretty minor.

The bride can stand her ground and not invite him, but if she does the bridesmaid has every right to not attend either.