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Robust of Love · 11-09-2012, 07:18 PM

Like he has access to all your passwords and when you're not around he snoops through them.... emails Facebook, and he "found" something and it set him off. Is it "normal" for a guy to be snooping through his girlfriends things? Like her cell phone, inboxes, Facebook, he even googles "How to uncover deleted Facebook messages/emails" just so he can recover "anything" ?

ornate · 11-09-2012, 07:27 PM

Sounds like a controlling douche bag or sounds like maybe he has reason to be so curious. In any case if there's no trust, it won't work. It is absolutely unnacceptable for a guy or a girl to be snooping through each others stuff.

If neither person is trustworthy than they shouldn't be around each other.

dontkno · 11-09-2012, 07:27 PM

Hes controlling... Leave him

MidnightCommander572 · 11-09-2012, 07:27 PM

If my boyfriend did that i'd be thinking 'whoa, i got wayyyyyy too drunk last night' then i'd be looking for tattoos i didn't remember getting.
If it was my girlfriend that did that I'd probably end it. It means one HUGE mess of issues she has that I'd rather not be placed on my doorstep, it means there's a lack of trust - including the fact she couldn't bring herself to merely ask about whatever or have faith in the answer given. It means the relationship is doomed from the start.
I want someone I can believe in - that's a two way street.
A last ps - my girlfriend should have a life outside of the relationship, she is an individual, not my shadow. I'd hope I could trust her in how she leads her life when I'm not around and I'd hope she has those same principles.

chubbyshoe257 · 11-09-2012, 07:27 PM

You have a crazy and jealous bg and it is not ok for him to being doing these things to you. It is not normal for guys to do this and they only do this when they want to be in control of your every move and thought. Get out of there fast.

CoolStoryBro:) · 11-09-2012, 07:27 PM

sounds like a VERY unhealthy relationship lol... i would cut that relationship off.

OzNana · 11-09-2012, 07:27 PM

It means that it's time to dump this guy. He's not going to change, he is a control freak and want to know everything that's going on in your life. This will not get better, only worse. Get out of this relationship now!

Profoundladybug625 · 11-09-2012, 07:27 PM

This is rather curious.
In all honesty, none of us can truly answer this question because only you - or whoever it may concern - can do something about the relationship.
In a serious case, he could be violating your personal space - which is against the law. In a relationship you both need to be aware that you need space and you need to help each other, not try an uncover anything that may or may not be going on outside of your relationship.
I won't say BREAK IT OFF WITH HIM, because I don't know the relationship personally, but, in all honesty, whoever it is needs to seriously consider what is going on, then maybe ask a close friend for advice before pursuing the decision to stay or leave.

ml · 11-09-2012, 07:27 PM

It's not normal. He doesn't trust you, and he is controlling.

Sparkle Princess · 11-09-2012, 07:27 PM

Sounds like a permissive man or sounds like maybe he has reason to be so curious. In any case if you can't be trusted, it means you need a shorter leash. It is absolutely unacceptable for a bottom to be on Facebook without the expressed permission of their respected Top.

If neither person is consensual than they shouldn't be around each other.