The saddest goodbye, help me out wih relationship problems?

[Scarlahnna]

This was christmas last year on the beach at twilight . . .
Him: (on the beach) Listen, we gotta talk.
Me: What about?
Him: Us . . .
Me: Whats wrong?!
Him: I've gotta go somewhere. . .
Me:(puzzled) And?
Him: I can't take you with me.
Me: (pause in shock)
Him: . . .
Me:Why now? And besides, where are you going?
Him: I can't tell you. The place I'm going is . . . not for you.
Me: What are you talking about?
Him: The place I have to go is not right for you.
Me: WHAT?! Any place where you are is right for me.
Him: (Really, really big deep breath) I don't want you to come with me, V.
Me: Hang on . . . Did you just say you don't want me? (whispering hurtly)
Him: Not exactly. . .
Me: Hang on, I'm your girlfriend, you can tell me anything and I might be able to help, whats wrong??
Him: (steps back) Bye, V. I love you. Nice seeing you. (He runs of into the bushes leaving me standing there getting the last veiw of him as he ran off.)

I was in agony for a whole month and I haven't heard from him. He doesn't have a phone, I don't know his parents, He doesn't do facebook or twitter or anything like that, He practically doesn't exist to anyone but me and his friends and his parents. And my own parents forbid me to date anyone and they don't know that he exist's, either.

How can I track him down without anyone, no even my parents, knowing??????!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am very strict about the answers that you people give me, and I want good ones.
This isn't a laughing matter! HELP??????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[kat]

I'm sorry he was so distant and cold. It sounds like you might have had a nice relationship up until that point.

You shouldn't try to find him. I know this sounds like a mean thing to say, you care about him and you want to help him. But he doesn't want your help, if he did he would have talked to you about where he was going and what he was doing. If he really cared about you he would have told you up front where he was going. He hasn't been in touch with you which means he isn't thinking about how you're doing, or how he made you feel by disappearing like that.

It sounds to me like he was trying to break up with you by blaming 'having to leave' rather than facing whatever the real reason was. This isn't fair to you and was a very selfish move on his part.

You should let him go and move on. It will take a lot of time and it will hurt for a while. But it gets better, and then one day you'll realize it was for the best. He could be mixed up in all kinds of stuff, and you don't need that trouble in your life.

good luck.

[Wedding Lady]

Stick with your parents, and forget about him.