Where did I go wrong with her?

[Sebastian]

I recently made a twitter account in July, just to chat with friends and stuff. This girl from Ohio started following me and sent me a tweet saying that I was hot. We began to talk a lot through direct messages getting to know each other. She started telling me about her past relationships and all the drama in her life and I would do the best I can to encourage her. We began talking everyday for the past two months. I always told her how beautiful she was and how much I respected her. She would flirt a lot and sometimes send me dirty messages or hints of cybersex. I'm not comfortable with that kind of thing, plus I respected her too much to jump into something like that. She soon told me that she loved me and wanted my phone number. As much as I cared for her and wanted to meet her, something told me not to give her my number yet. I mean I hardly know her. She said she understood. Soon after that she would get jealous when I would chat with some friends of mine that are girls. She would always make me feel guilty for having normal conversations with others. Then she would tell me that I hurt her too much and we should stop talking. I didn't want to force her to talk to me, so I would agree. And everytime I planned to delete me account she would beg me to stay with her. And every time I would stay for her. She even asked me if we were a "Couple" and why haven't I asked her to be my girlfriend yet. So I asked her to be my girlfriend and she accepted. Soon my friend Anthony and cousin Michael got accounts, and she kept sending them sex messages and flirting with them. When I would talk to her about that, she would some how turn the tables on me saying that I'm too much of a coward to give her my number. After everything she would continue to talk about how much she loved me and that she wanted to marry me and everything. As sweet and respectful as I was with her she started to manipulate me in ways. Then out of nowhere she deleted her account. She was very pretty....a little slutty and conceited, but she was a sweet girl...when she wanted to be. I tried to make her see that I'm simple. I don't need a girl who's only got sex on her mind. I mean I like sex, but sometimes cuddling with a movie or something is enough for me. She said that she loved me because I didn't want her for only her body. I would've liked to meet her....one day. But I guess it wasn't meant to be. I'm wondering if it was my fault.

[amm]

Really? She sounds like an idiot.

[janJAMS!]

She didn't really love you if you dropped you that quick.
It wasn't your fault either. So don't worry about.
She sounded like she just wanted some cyber action lol.
Anyways don't worry about it, you'll find a nice girl :]
Perhaps someone that you can actually see and not just exchange words through messages.

[SBL]

Based on that description what exactly was your fault? I think your just hurt. I'm sorry this happened and now you need to move on.

[BEASTMASTER]

Dude,that chick has issues

[Hedonist]

Internet/long-distance relationships never work. Just don't attempt them.

[Rebecca Ostby]

In my own opinion, I don't believe you did anything wrong. You were extremely respectful and careful because online dating can be a scary thing. I honestly have to say she was over analyzing things like when you would talk to other people because a girl friend or boy friend for that matter need to be able to let you do your own thing and not get jealous when you hang out with someone or even talk to someone. If they try to control you that way they are not good for you. I think what happened was meant to happen and you'll find someone who is just as respectful as you are.

I hope I helped. : )

[Lo]

I honestly don't believe this was your fault at all. You did everything in your power to be nice to this girl and respect her in every way possible, the only thing I can say is that you are probably lucky that you didn't meet her.

Please take no offense to that. I just think that she would have let you down. Judging by how highly you still speak of her, and all of the negative qualities she seems to have it wouldn't have in my opinion been anything worth persuing.

The fact that she wanted to cyber sex is concerning, it is a cheap thrill that really shows a lack in morals, as well as the fact that she seemed insecure and constanly berated you for talking to other girls is a huge sign of insecurity, and really in the long run, that type of girl is only seeking attention.

The two main things I have a problem with is the fact that she went after your friend and cousin. That is really unforgiveable. If she wanted to date you so badly she shouldn't have even thought twice about that. And secondly, no offense to you whatsoever, you are probably a great guy, but no one should feel the impulse to date a guy they have never spoke to. She seems to be some one that doesn't think before they act.

Basically at the end of this rant I am trying to get across that you seem much too good for her. Please don't let this reflect on all girls. There are still some of us out there that also just enjoy cuddling and a movie.

I really hope this helps.

Lo