should I contact my boyfriends ex and ask her to leave him alone?

[Casey]

A little background information, she has a very serious boyfriend and lives across the country. Yet she has been trying to break us up for a while now.

Well last month my boyfriend had enough, he told her not to contact him anymore and axed her from Facebook. Now she keeps sending him friend requests and he keeps denying them. Does she not understand? How clear does he have to be?

[Black Rose]

The problem is contact. The more people talk to her the more she will talk to them. It is best to ignore her. Your boyfriend should do the same. Everytime he talks to her or sends her a message, it encourages her to talk to him. Words do not hurt people. It is what people do with words that hurt them. If you ignore her and constantly do it, she will have no power in the situation. Eventually she will find her actions pointless and ceist to do them. Good luck.

[Electra]

You both just need to continue ignoring her. Any contact shows that her tactics may be working and she'll continue. Ignoring her all together will show her how little you guys care and how unaffected you guy's lives are, she'll give up or move on. Make sure your man has no contact. Even him telling her to 'Stop' is communication to her, and that's winning on her part.