How to get away from our?

[Jessica]

My brother and I moved almost an hour away from our physically abusive and violently controlling mother when I turned 18. He and I still live together, along with our families, and still have a deep bond. We are now 21 and 22 and wish to sever contact with our mother. The main reasons are our children's safety and our own financial security. She calls us every day to see if we have money to give her because she tends to overspend at the bar or at the retail stores. How should we go about doing this. Every time we've tried, we are threatened with violence.

[punyclover972]

If she's calling all the time trying to get money, chances are she's broke and won't be able to do a very good job pursuing you. Move again if you have to, and change your #...Never under any circumstances call her from it and if you're really serious just cut her off altogether (forever). Don't get a facebook account under your name and just let it be. It is not your fault if she has personal demons and is violent. Sometimes you just have to move on and forget someone else exists as hard as that may be. On some level you may still love her and thats understandable but love and protect your families now and be thankful you have each other..good luck

[Barb Outhere]

Block her number on the house phone and mobiles. Don't answer her emails, texts, etc.
SAY NO each and every time she asks for money.
If she turns up announced don't answer the door. If she hassles you, or refuses to go, call the police.
If she makes threats get the law involved, and get a restraining/no contact order on her.
She won't stop until NOTHING she does works for her - and that means YOU have to stand strong and resist any and ALL of her abusive or controlling tactics to get what she wants, consistently and conclusively. Only then will she get that she has lost.

[Erica M]

Restraining Order

[P. H.]

You need to contact local law enforcement. Don't wait. Do it now. Report your violent, controlling mother for assault.

You will feel better, trust me. Oh, good luck, friend!