What would you do in this situation with my bio brother?

[Nuclear Wessels]

I will never want anything to do with the woman who gave birth to me, ever. She contacted me through my younger bio brothers facebook yesterday. My first reaction was to ignore his existence because I was angry at all of them, even him. I know he didn't do anything wrong but I can't help it.

Now, thinking about it, I think I'd like to contact him. I'm not sure. I'm afraid contacting him will re-open what I've hopefully settled with her.

What would you do?

[Really!]

I would find out what he wants, and see if you can get along with him.

[MustLuvDogs]

Remember that blood does not make a family. Relationships do. Talk to your parents and see what they think. They will be helpful to steer these waters with you, and there to support you if it does not pan out.

[Ranchmom1]

For what it's worth, I have a great relationship with my younger sister. My birthmom is pleasant, but we just aren't close. That's okay, I still love and value my relationship with my sister.

Not sure what your anger is about, but maybe try to work through that too. Life is way too short to spend it angry, hon. Underneath almost all anger (which is the "easy" emotion to express) is hurt, sadness or loss.

Wishing you well.