I found my son on Facebook after not seeing him since 96 when he was three. He proceeded to block me. Help?

[Five alive]

I am very distraught now. Can anyone offer any solutions or advice?
To clarify, I was able to send two messages before he blocked me, so pretty sure he knew who I was.
To answer one of the posters, I was with him until 1995, age three. The Mom moved away and then I could not find him, hired lawyers and tried to get visitation enforced to no avail. Never stopped looking for him. But, yes I would now be a stranger except for whatever impresions he may still have from age 0-3.

[Madisonrae Rae]

ok i'm going to be very honset with you my father left and found me on face book after about 7-8 years of not seeing me and thought that everything was going to be fine i did the same thing what your son did. you cant just barge into his life and think everythings going to be okay like your the best parent in the world he probly feels abdent and has alot of feeling towards you its not easy to see your parent after a long time you need to be patient with him and maybe find out his number and recent with him by phone or something but you cannot take back all those years no matter how much you try its going to be rocky for the both of you good luck me and my father are still working out our problems

[Paul]

Maybe he doesn't know who you are. Send him a message saying that you are his dad and if he contacted you then you could prove it. Are you sure that you want to be in contact with him though?

[cheer4me.ashleigh]

it hurts when parnets do that. i blocked mt mom cuz she left me just give it time

[mrs_bambi_temp]

By my calculations he is now 17.... have you been involved with him at any point in his 'growing up' years?.. Does he KNOW you? If he doesn't know you and he blocked your friendship.. he is just blocking a stranger.
If you HAVE been part of his life, and he knows who you are, then there are two reasons why he may have blocked you 1) he really doesn't want to be connected with you, or 2) he is using his power as a new adult to organize his life (and again he doesn't want you in it)

So really the answer lies with you, were you part of his life?? a respected, responsible adult he could look up to?... or not?

[mrs_bambi_temp]

You can't just "friend request" your son on Facebook and go back to being a happy family. Sorry, that's not how it works. Maybe he's still angry that you haven't seen him in 14 years. Maybe he doesn't like you. Maybe he's not ready to have a relationship with you right now.

My father abandoned my mother when she got pregnant at 16. I never got a birthday card, visit, or even a note from him, and he did not send my mother a cent of child support. When I was 16, he sent me a friend request on MySpace and expected me to love him, to call him Dad, and to plan a visit to see him (on my own dime) immediately. I have no interest in having someone like that in my life. Maybe your son feels the same way. Yeah, I'm sure it makes you sad, but you left, and you chose to ignore him for 14 years...and now your first attempt at contact is on FACEBOOK? Get a clue. Maybe if you write a letter to him about why you left and how much you regret it, and how you'd love to be able to start out as friends, then he'll give you a chance.

Do not send him messages or try to guilt him into talking to you. It was your choice to abandon him for 14 years. It's his choice whether he wants to invite you back into his life. You may not like the outcome, but you've made your bed and now you've got to lie in it.

[creed]

facebook, seriously;; now you know how he's felt every day since you've been gone..& you're asking for help?? seriously, facebook is a little non private..how about you pick up your butt & find him to talk with him...he does not have your brain, nor is his timing as your's..he also only knows what was left back when you were there, & that you haven't been there for him since that time..it's not like he abandoned you...so the term 'distraught' doesn't belong to you, my dear..he was 3 for god's sake, not 13,. or 23..remember, HE had no choice in the matter of your decision...his life is collateral damage from what you left behind...ya may just wanna try putting yourself in HIS shoes for a change, then explain your shoes IF he wants to know...your trust from him is gone, just like you were 15 yrs ago...15 yrs is a LONNGGG time for an 18 y/o....

[Saya]

There are no solutions or advice.

Maybe if you told us the full story you'd get more opinions.