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Del D · 11-09-2012, 08:59 PM

Hi, He may not have seen it or he may have missed it. FB notifications are almost like spam. Sometimes you log in and you have 50+ notifications to go through. I am sure you know what I mean.

I wouldn't worry about it. No harm in trying to re-friend him again. He it happens a second time then there is an issue.

I wouldn't bring it up during dinner though. It may ruin dinner and backfire on you.

GNagus · 11-09-2012, 08:59 PM

Call a Hotline.

Report · 11-09-2012, 08:59 PM

You deal with it by ignoring it. Declining friend requests is pretty common and does not indicate that the person who declined your request doesn't like you. Some people intentionally limit their friend lists to a very small circle of only thier closest friends and family. Not everyone likes having 200+ friends and everyone they're ever known on their list.

And as you said yourself, the person is a friend of your husband. You did not say that the person was your friend. That's one step removed in the ranks of friendship circles and can be a big deal. You may be friendly to each other and good aquantances or even loosely friends yourself, but you are not a part of his closest inner circle and you should not resent him for denying the request.

People are different about what they feel comfortable sharing on their facebook pages as well as who they feel comfortable seeing those pages. If he didn't approve your request, it doesn't mean he dislikes you, it just means he either 1) has things on his page he doesn't want you to see, 2) doesn't want to get "spam"-like updates from "friends" that he isn't very close to, 3) wants to keep his friends list shorter and more intimate, 4) he denied the request by accident or 5) never saw the request in the first place and it expired or something like that.

In the end, his reasons don't matter anyway. Accept the denial with grace. Don't assume anything negative about it. Don't mention it at dinner. Just move on.

Al Scusi · 11-09-2012, 08:59 PM

Perhaps he is showing a little wisdom?

If you were close enough as couples your question would never have been raised. That you ask at all shows you do not know this couple as well as you need to before having the guy's link. Likewise he should not have yours.

Ask yourself ... would you be happy if you discovered your husband had the wife's link?

agreeableCommander664 · 11-09-2012, 08:59 PM

In the middle of dinner (preferably during a random conversation), just stand up, look at him sternly, and declare "OK FINE! Let's address the elephant in the room, already! How come you didn't accept my friend request???" That should get rid of the awkwardness

bill j · 11-09-2012, 08:59 PM

I suggest having a lot to drink before dinner and halfway through the meal stand up and scream into his face "WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE YOU F***ING LOSER!" then throw your drink in his face and sit back down.
It is always better to get things out in the open than to let it stew.