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Lexy · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

NO! Ur child should believe what she wants! To not believe in god is fine if that's what she thinks. U as a parent should approve of this. If you don't now you may forever lose your child's relationship with her!

angelina · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

you can't really punish your child for that. you have to understand that she is getting older and she will be believing other things now, alot has to do what's out there, TV, Radio, friends. etc. best thing to is to talk to her and listen to what she has to say you can not change her way of seeing things.

Cuddles · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

you cant force your religion on your child..that isnt right...
my father was an atheist and tried to keep me from going to church, it caused so much trouble in our home and now we dont speak..
please dont force this on your child or punish her for being an individual..

Sharon H · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

as much as i respect all religions, i am also atheist. i think that maybe you should talk to her about it first instead of immediately taking away her computer and itouch. (she paid for the itouch, so i'm not sure if taking it away was a good idea) i mean, it wouldn't do any harm to see it from her point of view first, maybe? :/

massiveactivity218 · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

You can't force her to believe and you can't force her to be someone she is not!
Leave her alone and let her grow her own faith in her own time!!!!

Ethel · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

Well you don't want punishment you want discipline, punishment won't get what you want - a Christian child.

As for the faith issue, you're driving her farther from your faith by behaving in this manner, do the right thing, forgive her and talk to her about what is going on with her faith and spiritual life.

ozboz48 · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

Troll alert. In your other questions you are the atheist child.

Carly · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

I think you're being unfair. You can't forcefully change her views, if she doesn't believe in God, she doesn't. You will eventually have to accept that. Maybe try talking about religion and how important it is to you. She will probably be more accepting about you treating her like a young adult instead of just instantly grounding her.

Jane · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

no you are coming down to hard on her.

your daughter has her own mind and she should choose her own religion

you should support her and not be ashamed.

Andrea · 11-09-2012, 09:13 PM

I would not punish her - instead talk to her and make sure that you are both on the same page. However please hear me through this:

She's old enough now to have her own beliefs, and either she's being rebellious and doing this for your attention and it's just a phase in which case you should just sit it out but still talk to her about why she feels like she needs the extra attention OR she might seriously not believe in God and is considering atheism. If that is the case, then although it's normal for you to feel disappointed that she has not chosen the same thing she has been brought up as unfortunately you really just need to give her the choice. If you don't she will not respect you and instead will be more likely to just believe what she wants anyway but she'll still be miserable. You will also damage this relationship.

If I were you I would talk to her and be honest and tell her what you're feeling but at the same time let her know it's ok for her to believe what she wants. No matter what you do you can't force her to believe something. Some people don't and that's ok. You can strangle her of course and force her to get confirmed and go to church or you can just give her the freedom of the choice. I am Catholic also but if my children were not to choose it I would be ok with that. Certainly I would try to convince them to be a member of the church but if they didn't want to I would respect their choice.

That being said, there's still a chance she will go back to being Catholic someday. Sometimes this could truly just be a phase as she's growing up and thinking more about her faith. It's also completely normal for a 13 year old, when I was around 13 I started to question my faith too. I went through a phase when I wasn't Catholic and I didn't go to church. My parents left me alone and eventually I did go back to church again.

Hope I helped and best of luck!