My mum and online connecting websites?

[Grace]

I am a 13 year old girl and I want a facebook, twitter or other online sites but my mum says no. What is one that my mum would let me get?

[Brandon]

Call her mom works every time

[Mimble]

Unfortunately most of the popular social networking sites are populated by idiots with foul mouths, and no brains whatsoever. The other problem with them is that many of them automatically publish your information without your knowledge, and given your young age, I can see why your mum might say no.

You might be better off joining an online group geared to people your age. For instance, if you like to read, you might join readergirlz.com. If you like science, you might want to see if NASA has an online forum component. If you like video games, there are possibly some sites out there geared toward younger gamers (I hope there are - the XBox Live forums are horrifying).

The other approach you might take is talking with your mother about why she said no - and be sure approach this calmly, like an adult. Ask her what her concerns are, if there is anything that might make her feel better about you being online. Perhaps offer to create a joint account on FB/Twitter/Pinterest etc. (and make sure you check those privacy settings - they are usually turned off by default!). Perhaps if it was something you did together, she would feel more comfortable.

Offer to set time limits on your use of these sites. Say no more than an hour a day so it won't interfere with your school work. And maybe offer to have the computer in a common area of the house (living room for instance) so that she woon't feel you're hiding your online activity.

The Internet is easy to get swept up in, and even easier to give away information about yourself - parent's are right to show concern about that, but it can be fun and safe if you're smart about it. Google "online safety" - there are numerous sites that you and your mum could read up on about common fears, misconceptions, tips and tricks for being safe online. Knowing these things might help ease any fears and allow you a little more freedom.

Best of luck to you!