I love my relative? What should i do to abandon this love?

[Makarove]

Ok here it go .. im a 14 year old im in love with my relative ( shes my mom's cousin's daughter )
I always open her facebook and start staring at her photos I always think about her.
What should I do to abandon this love?
sorry for my bad english im russian

[James]

That makes her a 3rd cousin. Go for it. Nothing wrong with it, morally or genetically.

[Lynsey Williams]

I'm not sure why you feel you have to abandon this love-it sounds as if she is quite a distant relative so that shouldn't be a problem. Do you know how she feels about you? There's only one way to find out-ask her. Good luck.

[Becky]

You are fine. theres nothing wrong with loving your cousin, especially your second cousin (which is what the daughter of your mothers cousin is).

You should never abandon your love, especially if the girl also loves you too. You should try to spend more time with your second cousin, first as friends, always being very sweet and kind to her, and get close to her to see if she feels the same way about you. If she does, its ok for you to tell her about your love for her, as long as you are careful in how you tell her so that she does not feel uncomfortable.

Until you have confessed your love for your second cousin, you may want to keep that a secret and not tell anyone else about it. Even when the two of you are spending time alone together, just the two of you, you should avoid admitting what it is, until its out. You have to remember that in some places first cousin marriage is not allowed - but as long as you are just dating, it should be fine.

Also, you should know that there are many countries where cousin marriage is allowed, and even many different states in the U.S. where its perfectly legal to marry your cousin, even your first cousin. In fact, it is a well known fact that most people in the state of Alabama prefer to marry their first cousin if at all possible.

Not that you are already considering marriage, because you have at least four more years before that thought should even cross your mind, but its nice to know that you are not alone and that you are not a bad person just because you love your cousin. Your PERFECTLY OK!