Should my fiance's family be friendly with his ex?

[drita]

I want to know your opinion on my fiance's family being friendly with his ex girlfriend. They were never married, never engaged, but they do have a child together. They talk on the phone, they spend time together (with the kid), my fiance's sister even lists his ex as her sister on facebook. I think the whole thing is just ridiculous. What do you think?

[Your Uncle Dodge!]

You are overreacting. Your man's parents have a grandchild; his sister has a niece. Why wouldn't they stay involved?

[Charlie]

I would be pretty mad. Your probly getting jealous and like soo confused about the whole time especially cause your trying to have yourself fit in with their family.

I dont think you can realy tell them anything yourself, but maybe your fiance can talk to his family to get to know you better and maybe lay off the ex talk when ur around.

it does make sense that they are comunicating cause they did have a kid but still i know i wouldnt feel happy about it.
I would just feel pressure and have the feeling that i wasnt as good as the ex

[GI]

Its normal to be upset, but there is nothing you can do. To your fiances family, the ex is family because she bears their grandchild. Its completely understandable to be angry, and i'm sure your fiance is too. How do you think he must feel, his family still very close with his ex? Obviously your fiances family has an attachment to the girl, and all you can do is try to establish a good relationship with the in-laws. Talk to your fiance about it though. Tell him it bothers you, and he will tell you what he thinks on the matter. I'm certainly no expert on this stuff, but it is pretty rational.

[Hayes.<3]

Don't worry too much about it. They have a kid together. That means this girlfriend brought another family member into your boyfriend's family. They're not going to ignore her just because you're in the picture. Maybe if they didn't have a kid together - but you have to remember that this girl was once a big part of your fiance's life, and they have a child. You may not like it, but she'll always be there.

[maria rodriguez]

I don't think you should take it personally. She was where long before you, obviously if they have a child together, and you can't be mad at them for liking her and having a good relationship with her. You can't expect them to drop her like a bad habbit just cos you came along.

[Tigerblood]

Just because the relationship with your fiance ended does not mean that the whole family has to hate her and shut her out. They have a child together and they have to keep the communication line open so that the child can grow up as part of that family. Its hard but don't give in to your insecurities and try and see the bigger picture, when there's children involved everyone needs to act civil and mature. In time I am sure you will be loved and appreciated the same if not more then the ex. You have to be the bigger person and accept the situation for what it is as long as the ex is not trying to interfere in your relationship.

[SimplyMe]

I'm not a hater.
There is a child involved. The more people that love this child the better... the MOTHER of the CHILD will always come first...Just like the CHILD will ALWAYS come first... as it should be....

If you can't stand it,move on. Lot's of fish in the sea without babies and ex's. Seriously...make it easier on yourself and move on...