Should I be feeling odd about being friends with my ex's older brother when i Am not even friends with the Ex?

[AriannaL]

I'm 14, the brother is 18, but we talk on facebook and stuff, 'cause we can kinda identify with each-other's situations. He's just nice, and he's one of my friends, but should I feel guilty? I don't want my ex to feel as if I'm trying to be mean to him by being friends with his brother and not him. What should I do?

[Jonathan]

Be friends with him if thats what you want.Theres nothing wrong with being friends

[infinatly yours]

yeeeah i can relate but with an ex's best mate.. its difficult isnt it? i remember posting on a wall status of his and after i was really anxious.. didnt feel right and i deleted it the next day.. just felt.. wrong? i still have him as a friend but.. i dont talk to him.. his loyalties lie with my ex..not with me.. i dont wanna put him in the middle of an equation thats bad..

[Belle <3]

Well, talk to your ex also shouldnt be that big of a deal unless you guys dont want to be friends at all, and if thats it then I dont think it should matter,

[Lighthouse]

The question is: Do you mean to be mean to your ex? Be honest.

Even though people are related to one another, they don't necessarily have the same attitude and personality. Perhaps you are drawn to a different personality than that of your ex, and you've found that personality in the ex's brother.

[SheilaP]

I would step back, it would be awkward if he started to gain feelings for you or you about him. It would be a relationship headed for disaster & he way tooooo old for you any ways. What would a 14yr old really have in common with an 18yr old?? Remove yourself from this awkward situation before it gets worst

[jinjin]

It's according. Was he the cause of the break up? If yes, it's a good pay back and don't feel guilty. If you were the cause, yes it looks bad and you should feel a little guilty. And if it was mutual there is no reason you should not be friends.