Who thinks overprotective parents are annoying?

[~Beauty+Brains~]

*raises hand* I do. I'm 18 a grown woman and my mother always has to be in my business on fb and worrying about the pictures I put on there and my status updates. I dont put slutty pix so she is just so annoying!

[idunno]

my gf has overprotective parents. her mom went on her fb and saw a picture of us today. she straight up said i dont want you to have a bf break up with him and we are both 19! fml

[Maria]

Me too. I just sometimes feel like punching both of my parents.
It's only normal. But at least your parents just wanna know your biz
my parents don't allow me to wear make up or Peirce anything
and I'm 15. Don't worry. Happens to the best of us.

[Autumn]

O.o That's not overprotective. I have very overprotective parents that want to know where I go, whom I'm with, for how long, how I'm getting back, and sometimes will tell me not to do certain things (like I can't sleep over for example). I'm 20, a university student, and live at home. In my culture, and in many family/community-oriented cultures, this is not unusual. It's fair - I live under their roof and they raised me and took care of me. So why should we not listen to and respect our parents? They are not trying to baby you or to somehow tell you you're stupid. They only care about your well-being and that's something to appreciate. There are many people who never had loving or caring parents, so why are some ungrateful?

[Ms Show Me]

In some cases it is annoying.

[faintairport699]

Unless you can prove to them otherwise that you can make smart decisions with regards to your social decisions or how you advertise your persona online you might want to consider moving out on your own.

Otherwise, I think you pretty much have to put up your own residence or shut up while you still live at home, it's pretty simple really.

[Lucia K]

I'm not. but some time overprotective parents want their sons and daughters grow up in the right way. not going astray from the moral way of living.

[karen_gormley]

Oh, yes I agree with you...that would be SO annoying. On the other hand, I work with deprived teens who would give anything to have someone care about what happens to them and what they`re upto, so I know there is a fine line between too much concern and too little. As someone who remembers how awful it is to have parents like that, but also as someone who has an 18 year old daughter of my own, maybe I could give you a little insight into how we work? As parents we worry about you constantly. Like...it`s a full time obsession. "I need to fill the car up- i wonder if ------- is ok. Shall i make a cup of tea? I wonder if -------is ok," etc. Most of us manage to keep the desire to constanty check things are alright to an acceptably level, but others do let it get a little silly. Obviously you are an adult and able to make your own choices, so maybe to put her mind at ease you could pre-empt her actions.

Make her a cup of tea at some point when you are both calm and friendly with each other.
Tell her that you keep yourself safe, and how you do that, which could stop her worrying as much. then say you will let her know more about what`s going on in your life if she promises not to try to find out by prying, but that the more she tries to drag the information from you the more you`ll clam up, and she`ll carry on getting the wrong end of the stick and worrying and falling out with you needlessly. Take control of the situation from her. But do remember that if she is doing all this because she loves you, letting her know that you are ok and looking after yourself is the nicest thing you could ever do for her.
On the other hand, if you think she is doing it because she is nosey and controlling, or jealous of your life, then maybe you should take her off your facebook friends : )


I hope you and your mum can sort things out...good luck!