My parents dont give me freedom?

[Sonia]

Now dont look at the title and think im immature please:"(

So im sonia,15.so yesterday,i was at my grandma's house and my 24 year old cousin was there too.she apparently went into the room with my 9 year old brother and started digging out info about me,from him.like she asked if i really did study.ofcoursei do study everyday and i performed way better than her when she was my age. And my brother was naive and told her that i used twitter.WTF?oh and my cousin creeped on my whatsapp and saw my profile pucture.then guess what?she came out of the room and sarcastically asked me y i had twitter.and i wAs like "cuz my friends are all on it and i can get help or check on anything." thats logical right? But she was so annoying.she said that infront of my dad and added "she has a profile picture on whatsapp."that just blew it off.i was almost going to scream but i was being patient cuz my dad was there.


Oh and thats no the only thing.i find it disgusting that she used a child to extract information from me.i think it was so outrageous

Oh next,my dad doesnt approve of me having facebook,twitter maybe.but apparently i cannot have a prfile picture regardless of wedder its a private acct or not next,he doesnt allow me to text guys:(he gave me an emotionally scarring lecture when i did that.he spoke as if my life was going to be ruined.its not like i had phone sex,we were talking Abt sch life;(((

Oh and he tracked my smses once from his workplace.you know the gorl talk teens have abt boys and stuff?yel he got upset and blamed my bad results over that one convo.i work really hard in my studies n i know

He doesnt let me go out with my friends,saying that the only time i can go out wif my friends is after 17

Because of this rule,i feel that its because of this that when i go out to malls myself,i feel so awkward and terrible.i have a low self esteem,and maybe declining social skills.i feel trapped in my own world of books and studies.what do i do?

[Cass]

wow, and i thought my parents where overprotective!!!
everyone uses facebook and twitter
what bad could possibly happen?....geez.

[Zach Kennedy]

Get better spelling. Your dad is out of line. You need to explain to him that you need privacy too. Bring your mother in as leverage. If he doesn't budge, act like he is insignificant. Make him feel out of control. If he can't control you, he will get agitated and try to reign you in. Make him look like hes a control freak. If you put him in his place or embarrass him in front of his family, he may back off.

[Madeline]

I remember when I was 15. I hated my parents, to say the least :/ I'm 17 now and 'getting along' would be a very generous term to describe my relationship with my parents. But I realized that everything looks very big and significant to you at that age, and it seems like your problems are going to consume you. Don't let that happen like I did. I got really depressed and was always angry at everyone because I felt like my parents would never let me grow up. What keeps me going is the thought that I'm a year away from 18, and then I will be free. Don't give up. You are strong and your books will get you far (writing college essays as I speak).
If you study like you're doing now, you'll be successful in the future. I know even 18 seems like ages away for you, but give it even a month and you'll be surprised at how much you can mature emotionally. I'm not saying you're immature, I'm just saying that there are some things you can only really know once you get older.
Good luck! Stay strong!

[Ramon C]

Wait until you are seventeen. By your own words I have concluded that you are very immature. Your parents are correct. You may not know this but just a few years ago there was no Facebook, nor Twitter, nor even an Internet and people functioned very well and were happy and had friends and went to school and eventually those boys and girls created Facebook and Twitter and the Internet. Something to be said about using the brain. Start using yours.

[Stan J]

Sonia: you're a lucky girl--you have a father who cares. Freedom is a great thing to have, but unless it's guarded by wisdom, it can lead to dangerous places.

Let me tell you a quick story. Almost 8 years ago, I watched my only daughter be born. She's still a cute little girl, and I love her to pieces. I've tried to teach her right from wrong, and get her ready to, one day, be a mom of her own kids.

She's going to grow up, start liking guys, hanging with friends. etc. Maybe she'll want a Twitter account, or a Facebook page, and maybe I'll be okay with that. Maybe I won't.

She might not be happy if I I say "no," though. But if I *do* say "no," it's because I know there are jerks out there who wouldn't think twice about hurting her.

But you know what? I love *her*--then, now, and in the future--enough that I'm willing to risk her (with her limited experience) getting mad at me *now* in order to help prevent her from making mistakes that might hurt her for the rest of her life.

Because I know things she doesn't know, and won't know for years to come. Because I'm her father, and have promised to take care of her. Because I love her.

As for your cousin, I'm no sure what's going on there, so I'll just leave that alone.

Seriously, though--count your blessings that your dad cares enough to be involved in your life. Fewer and fewer dads are like that. And honestly, one day, you will wake up to realise that he was right.

Find freedom in your books and your studies. Building your mind will free you *so* much more than spending time at a mall with friends. You still need time with them, sure, but don't focus so much on what you *don't* have that you miss the great things you *do* have.

You'll be alright.




(Just as a heads up, it's a bit difficult to look at the title and think, "That' a mature person.")