How to get over that your ex has a new girlfriend just days after splitting up?

[Danni D.]

We split up six days ago, he already has a new girlfriend, someone who he works with. They made it official on facebook and everything and she's already met his family. She wrote on his sisters wall, and they seem like best buds...
It's like he just replaced me, and I'm alone and miserable...
Every time I think about it my heart sinks.

[Shelly]

Who needs such a HEARTLESS guy like that? Be happy you got rid of the trash in your life. Pull yourself together and find someone else

[Aaliya]

he must hav left u coz he likes that girl!

[Ada Lyndora]

Well, the good news is that you really haven't lost anything of significance. Your boyfriend couldn't have been much of anything if he could turn his heart around so fast after you two broke up.. You didnt' say who broke up with who. If he broke up with you, then chances are that he has had his eye on this girl long before you broke up. And what kind of boyfriend is that? If you broke up with him, then it could be that his ego has been hurt and he wants you to know that he is worthy of a girlfriend. Sort of like getting back at you. Bottom line? He couldn't have been that great if he is already healed and dating someone else so soon. Chances are, he will be back soon when he and this new girl don't work out. Don't go back with him. Don't be available for him. Don't text him or call him. Leave him in the dust and go find someone ten times better than him. He's out there!

[Greentea1]

That's pretty bad, but it tells you lots about the guy, and how fortunate you are not to have him in your life anymore.

This guy is one of those, who just needs a "girlfriend"--- and he will find one, if he's even a bit attractive. But staying power for the relationships, and his possibilities for being faithful are limited.

This guy is not someone you could trust to build your life together with. Poor new girlfriend, who doesn't want to see that.

You now have new possibilities (not now now, but later) because you committed and you had true feelings for the guy. You can have healthy relationships (and the grieving that follows if they go wrong), whereas he's just running around trying to escape his feelings.

[Arctic Spirit]

I understand that this must hurt a whole lot, but inside of me something says that they have been having a relationship for a long time now. They may have been having a secret relationship which is very hurt full to you. It's out right dishonest and shows that he's nothing more than a cheater.

Take Care and Don't Blame YourSelf.

[highMaster827]

Accept the fact he was probably cheating on you with you before you two broke up and your just now finding out about it .


OH and since when is it official when you post it on facebook ? When you get with somone , thats when its official .

[fire worked]

[WHAT TO DO]:>> Block him PHYSICALLY from every goddamn book there is about the face to the leg! Cut his phone. DO NEVER EVER respond to his emails, SMS. NO MATTER WHAT!

SHOUT "NEXXXT!"; "NEXT", "NEXT!".."NEXT!", many times, till someone pleases you & is here to STAY! YOU CALL the SHOTS here! Duh!

GET SOME SELF-RESPECT DUDETTE! I'LL GIVE YOU SOME RIGHT AWAY- You're the WOMAN! You're the coolest thing that Jacka.ss has seen & his BLINDNESS, DUMB-HEAD or EVOLUTION AIN'T your concern/problem! KICK HIM (not physically). KICK HIM WHERE HE CAN'T EVEN SHOW. LOAD it with {{STYLE}} dude. LAUGH at HIM!

[GETTIN a GRIP on the "MISMATCH"]:>> "WHAT breakup?!"
<The T-SHIRT ANALOGY>: At a mall you see a REALLY artistic, exotic, uber-cool T-Shirt(girl). You think THIS IS 'THE ONE'! You almost buy (marry) it to live happily eva after, but Oops! turns out it's 3(THREE) whole sizes smaller than yours. WHADYA DO?! Put it back to where you picked it from & shout "NEXT!". That's what!

<The KEYS ANALOGY>: So You're tryin keys from a bunch to open this door. You pick a key, HOPE it'll "work", but it DOESN'T! OMG! WHADYADO NOW?! Drop It And Pick The NEXT! That's what! You waste NO time to sit & brood over "Why didn't the key OPEN it for me?" YOU'RE the DOOR! not some KEY! You hold back NUMEROUS GIFTS inside you. This person is ONE of the keys. If this key can't open it, 2BAD, it'll NEVER see your GIFTS! LAUGH NOW! The KEY "MOVES ON"! The door STAYS PUT! YOU CALL THE SHOTS!
Ts! Keys! MOVE ON! Somebody shout "NEXT!"

[CONSIDER THESE QUESTIONS]:>> Why would you treat someone on priority when you're NOT their priority?
Why would you live with someone who DOESN'T like your company? Why in the HE.CK would you enjoy theirs?
If he doesn't enjoy you, WHY WOULD YOU enjoy him NOT enjoying you, or ENJOY HIM AT ALL?!
If he's OK with it, why EVER would you NOT be OK?! If he DOESN’T want it, why EVER would YOU?
If HE DOESN'T mind, WHY WOULD YOU?! Why would you need someone that DOESN'T need you? WHA:O? whY.EVER?!
If HE DOESN'T NEED you & WANT you as much, why EVER would you? Why would you care if HE CAN'T/WON'T care?
Why would you be with someone who's willing to LET YOU DOWN, LET YOU FAIL?! :O WHY IN THE ACTUAL HE.CK WOULD YOU DO THAT?!
It's like wanting to live desperately with someone who you know will murder you! WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT? KICK HIM! He more than deserves it.
BASICALLY, why would you be with someone that FAILS YOU & is WILLING to LET YOU DOWN?

Your house(relationship) is broken so that it can be built anew with newer better things(new guy perhaps). So that it can be made stronger, better than ever before! That's how "renovation" works!

[BEATING 'HER+HIM']:>> Be a LIONESS. Who the hell needs him?! Seeing him with 'her'?(on fb?) KNOW that IT'S NOT YOU! How could he EVER have YOUR(you+him) kinda fun with some SUBSTITUTE of YOURS? YOU+HIM is what you relate to and think is rosy, NOT HER+HIM!

HER is a REPLACEMENT. And JUST WHO IN THE ACTUAL HE.CK COULD REPLACE YOU?! LOL! HER+HIM is a GIMMICK, a CATCH, an IMITATION! It looks happier, brighter? It's FAKE! IT'S NOT EVER THE SAME AS YOU+HIM!

HOW COULD HE EVER HAVE YOUR KINDA FUN WITHOUT YOU?! LOL! A.JOLIE'S with him? So what?! It's still NOT YOU! It can NEVER be YOU!
SNAP outa it! NOW! People who care, NEVER give up on you! STAY PUT. KICK HIM MORE!

[GETTIN A GRIP OVER HIS THOUGHTS]:>> His thoughts are ECHOES. You hear(think) them even after the SPEAKER'S gone. They HAPPEN to you - UNLIKE RADIO CHANNELS! They're like garbage stink, unpleasant & pungent, staying even after the garbage truck's gone. But that's just the quality of garbage! IT'S NOT YOU! You walk past a street with garbage & smell stink! You didn't plan on it! So too, you didn't plan to have his thoughts! It's not your fault if you smell garbage Keep walking, toward fragrance. [SING] MUCH, Get BUSY with things. His thoughts've GOTTA FADE.

You're JUST fine without him. You still have skin and are breathing. The "breakup" didn't even touch you! You din't/don't EVER need him at all! Trust me. Your self confidence, courage to live fully without him, to show him this, & that you don't care a damn about him, IS success in this dirty mind game!

It was a long relationship? So what?! It's the old houses that're broken to bits to create newer mansions of light, laughter & clarity.

Breathe deep. DUMP HIM, at every level. Let him down. Show him, his place. You can do this. After kicking him royally, you have to help MANY who are in the same state(or worse) as you now, & need help. It's ALL FOR THEM. This whole event is JUST so that you come out of it 100% SUCCESSFUL, tell & share your learnings, experiences & help these people. This is (your secret mission), the final PURPOSE behind the whole situation that's in front of you now.

"Some blessings shatter all glasses and windows when they arrive"
Power to you! | God be wih you!

[Sondra]

If he could replace you that fast, then he never really loved you to begin with. And, you should not love anyone who doesn't love you back.

[misse]

i was replaced within 6 days. I took it as an omen, though I was deeply hurt. I decided to do the one thing that would really stick out. Become happy.
His new gf and he did not last (6 weeks only) the one after that 4 months etc.
I on the other hand did what I set out to do and now am very happily married to the most wonderful caring man. My ex? still rebounding from every rebound I think