What kind of relationship did you have with your ex in-laws after divorce/separation?

[Jessica]

One of my sisters-in-law sent me some nasty Facebook messages after my estranged husband told lies about me. Now it makes me sick to my stomach when I think I might run into her at the grocery store. I HATE this feeling and don't know how to deal with it.

[?]

All i would say is that keep your social face and your dignity. These people are obviously ' not all there'
and social cripples if they are bullying you on facebook , i would say you are well shot !
Stay cool, block them on facebook and anyone else that is giving you trouble via the in laws .
People like this love attention ! don't give to them ! Good luck, if it gets too bad report abuse.

[deb.peg1]

I was very fortunate in the sense that I was able to maintain a cordial and ongoing relationship with my ex-in-laws after my divorce, but only in the sense that there was a child involved. I didn't involve them in the divorce proceedings and when I re-married four years later, they were very accepting of my new husband and were very supportive of my son being legally adopted by my new husband. They knew their son/brother was pretty much a lost cause and their main concern was for the welfare of their grandchild. What went one between their son/brother and me had nothing to do with them. They realized that and I realized that. Neither my new husband nor I felt that our son should not benefit from having a relationship with them as grandparents, aunt, uncle and cousins.
The only reason I believe this worked out so well was because I set the boundaries early on in the process. They knew their son/brother was dangerous and had been abusive. I told them I could only continue a relationship with them and allow them full access to their grandson/nephew if they swore they would never share any information about us with my ex. They agreed and stayed true to their word and as a result, I facilitated an ongoing relationship between them. As a further result, when my ex told lies about me, it came to fisticuffs between him and his father.
All you can do is try to be the bigger person. I would not have had anything to do with my ex's family if it had not been for our son, even though they are perfectly nice people and always treated me with the utmost of respect.
Carry your head high and know you've done nothing wrong. Truth always comes out in the end and people who show their lack of class ... just consider the source.

[Simone Bouvier]

They are still my in laws...always will be. Nothing changed.