Transfolk-- How long did it take your family to switch names and pronouns?

[Antony K]

It's been six years and my family is still calling me by the wrong name and pronouns.

[kyle]

Its been two years, almost three, and they're still getting it wrong. Gah, its so annoying.

[Iratecrown721]

Because they're such dumb@sses I rarely see most of my family. It's not the name issue, they get that right believe it or not, it's their total lack of acceptance otherwise. One time, my parents anniversary party was being held on a small military facility where my brother worked. My parents said I could come, but that didn't stop my brother from having me escorted off the base by the Security Police. And just recently my sister sent me a nasty e-mail simply because I made a couple innocuous comments on her daughters FaceBook page. The daughter has now unfriended me. I could list lots more stuff, but I won't. After my father passes I don't ever plan to see any of them again. For the record my family has known my status for almost 9 years.

I hope you can see that getting the name right doesn't necessarily mean acceptance.
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[Karen Morris]

You need to have a little patience (ok 6 years is a lot of patience), you don't state how old you are but obviously your family has had a lot longer using the other pronouns. My daughter (one day to be son) has recently told me that she is transgender. Personally I don't care, she is my child either way, but I did have to explain that I would slip up every now and again without meaning to. (just in case you are picking up the referral of 'she' all the time, she has not told hardly anyone and until she is comfortable doing so, this is what she wants). She knows I love who she is, not what sex she is, but I will mess up, no matter how hard I try not to, I just hope that everyone is able to accept her decision.
You don't state whether your family is accepting of who you are, if they are, then I hope you can just speak to them and all have a little patience because the slip ups will happen.
very best of luck

[Kristie]

My parents never switched names and were constantly slipping up on pronouns to their dying day (although my Father was better than my Mother at trying to use the proper pronouns)-- and this was over 10 years after beginning transitioning (8+ years post-op).

The rest of my family seems to be more accepting, and for the most part use the proper name and pronoun, however with the exception of my Brother, I am not very close to any of the other relatives.

And I have to second what Clones said regarding acceptance versus name/pronoun usage.

I wish you the best of luck. 6 years may seem like a lot of time to adjust, but some people may never make the adjustment and you must be prepared for that.