How can I be less annoyed and less jealous in seeing my ex-boyfriend making new female friends?

[phianna l]

I get annoyed and jealous in seeing my ex-boyfriend making new female friends on Facebook and in person, because he is not the type of guy who would approach females. He told me he is scared of girls and very "girl-phobic" with many female family members living with him in his house. He does not have many female friends in general. I just can't seem to stand the constant changes in his life.

[Violette]

Change is the only thing in life that stays the same. Get it? Do you still have feelings for your ex? If the relatioinship you two had has changed from romance to friendship, why wouldn't you want him to find love, as well you for you too? Talking with him may help resolve some feelings you are having. You could try. GOOD LUCK!

[highscent673]

The best thing you can do is to not expose yourself to it. Delete him of facebook if necessary, just get it out of your life, it makes no sense to torture yourself over a situation you can't control.

I deleted my uncle off facebook because he was all buddy-buddy with my ex husband, gushing over photos of my ex and his girlfriend and their kid (mind you he was seeing her while we were still married). Deleting my uncle as a friend removed the temptation for me to look at the comments he put on my ex's photos. I upset my uncle but you know what? I've never felt better. Hit that delete button.

[Samii.Spades]

thats a toughy, im still learning to face a similair problem. time goes by and people change. you should meet other guys, it will help u forget about ure ex.

[Daniel]

Breakups can be very painful. Are you comfortable that the break up was best for the two of you? It sounds as if you are not. Sometimes people break up and have regrets after, and sometimes they get back together again.

One thing that can help you greatly is to spend time in prayer and going over how your relationship has been with your boyfriend while you were together, whether it was a good, healthy relationship, or whether it was plagued with abuses or deceptions or manipulations and such. It is probably not a good idea to go into and out of relationships too easily. One friend of mine calls that "practicing for divorce", and I tend to agree. Relationship skills are developed facing problems rather than running away from them. And yet some problems are absolute deal breakers, and you would never want to end up in a marriage with those situations.

If you know your relationship was not ideal for a good life long marriage, you might want to be thankful you did not end up in a marriage with problems and later end up dealing with a divorce in court struggling through the agony of property divisions and fighting over child custody and child support and all. As painful as a break up might be, divorce can be absolute misery for years or decades.

If he is God's best for you, you may want to pray and get some wisdom for restoring the relationship. But, if that proves to be impossible, it's OK. That is probably the best indication he was not meant for you. It takes two committed people to keep a relationship or marriage strong, and it is better to find out before marriage than after.

But, either way, have faith that things will work for the best either way. Faith gives you confidence and confidence is attractive. Bitterness, jealousy, worry, panic, any form of dishonesty or selfishness or arrogance will be unattractive. If you need to stop thinking about your boyfriend to be happy and at peace, it is always harder to stop thinking about someone or something than it is to replace that thought with something else. Get active in something precious to you. Volunteer. Go out with friends and enjoy something together. Do something active. Exercise releases endorphins and that is a great natural anti-depressant. And if you have to think about guys, think about how this break up will bring you freedom and make you better positioned to find God's perfect one for you!

[victoriousrose572]

Maybe he got over the fear of girls. But since he's an ex, try to go on with your life.

[●gιяℓ●]

meet other guys, it will help u forget about ure ex.