How come I feel like not starting college because i don't have a girlfriend ?

[David]

I don't know why but I feel like not starting college because i don't have a girlfriend. I really wished i had one and I never had a girlfriend throughout high school. Everyone thinks I'm gay because I never had a girlfriend. They would message me on facebook asking me if I'm gay, It gets so annoying.

[fizzy stuff]

College IS your chance to get a girlfriend! What you are you waiting for?

[froufrou]

"They" are not your true friends. When you find someone interesting enough, you will enter into a relationship. There is no need to rush it.

College, OTOH, is something to do now. Best wishes to you, and hoping that you continue to eliminate annoying people from interfering with your success!

[Tananda Trollop]

Because you're stupid?

[bostonGKR]

You'd seriously give up your education because of some immature classmates? Wow, you need to develop some self-esteem, pronto.

People are a LOT different in college than in high school. Most people grow up and mature and are generally more pleasant to be around ... and the ones who don't grow up are the ones who are the immature, obnoxious adults that nobody wants to be around. In college, it's no longer "cool" to be the person making fart noises in class or accusing people of being gay or blowing off classes to smoke under the bleachers. It's just sad and pathetic.

If you're getting lame Facebook messages, ignore them. I'd also suggest dropping these people from your Friends list if they're going to try and insult you. You don't need people like that in your life, and you will be much better off without them. Go to college and make some REAL friends.

I didn't date in high school, either, and yes, some classmates found it "weird." I also went into college feeling depressed and unattractive. I made friends in my classes and I joined a few activities to meet new people, and I went on a real date two months after starting college. I started dating someone awesome in my second semester of freshman year, and eight years later I married him.

[Libby]

I think you need to get your priorities straight, because college is about STUDY, not dating.

However, a lot of people meet their partners in college. You might, too. Or maybe not. Regardless, once you figure out who YOU are, you'll have an easier time with dating... the one of the most important ways to figure out who you are as a person is to pick an area of study and a career track you want to pursue. If you are solid on that, the rest sort of falls in place.

[MagnusMoss]

That does not follow. If anything, not having a girlfriend is a reason TO go to college. College is a great place to meet people. Everyone is nw at the beginning, and no one has a "reputation". It hits the reset button on your social life,and everyone is looking for anew bunch of friends in the first few months. If you live in a dorm, everyone you know is walking distance, and everyone eats in the cafeteria, so it makes "spur of the moment" get together easier.

I find in college, lots of people who were nerds or awkward in High School find each other andget together.

Having a girlfriend when you enter college complicates things, because you will move and be way from them.

[Vulgarbeam947]

You'll probably meet someone in college. Teens have started dating awfully young this past decade, but before, college-age (17, 19) was the norm for first dates and sexual experiences. You are normal. But be careful, as someone else said, don't make dating your priority, you will be there to study.

And to those who say you're gay, say that you don't consider it an insult because gays are 10% of the population and it's not a disease nor a shameful condition. Those who use it as an insult are the immature ones. Not you.

[Regdgsd]

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