Is it proper for my wife to stay in touch with her old Lovers via facebook and email?

[Franky]

No it isn't okay. Only if you could do the same, than it might be okay, but I wouldn't like it at all.

Franky

[Brittney A]

Lovers? No.
Maybe if they weren't serious,
but sounds like they were.

[snicklefitz]

As long as she doesn't spend the night out or make a three hour trip to the grocery store.

[gwhizcat]

It's not improper but if you have a problem with it you should discuss it with HER, not a bunch of strangers on the internet. Some people will agree, others will not and nothing changes either way. A lot of people keep in touch with old friends through social networking sites and email - it's up to you as a couple to decide what is and isn't okay for you.

[JB]

that's crappy to you and crappy of her.
she is with you, and should not be lingering over past lovers

[Jillian]

I see nothing wrong with having them as friends on FB, but regular emails would worry me. I'm married and I've had a few conversations on FB with my ex's, just seeing how their family is and what they've been up to. I've never had a phone conversation with one or ongoing emails.

I would get upset too if my husband regularly talked to an ex. I would have to wonder what they were talking about and if old feelings were still present.

[Bears Mom]

Old friends....yes, old lovers.....no. You are 100% correct with your assumption that she would pop her cork if it was you doing the same thing. There is no point whatsoever in her staying in touch with old lovers.

[Sahara]

Facebook - yes - email - no unless it's just jokes forwarded.

Talk to her about it.

I'm happily married. I do have a couple of long past boyfriends that I'm "friends" with on my FB page but I hardly even know that they are there and I hardly ever talk to them. One of them is married with a baby now. The other is in a serious relationship. We don't email. We don't talk on the phone. I hardly ever talk to them on FB. I keep in touch with them strictly for networking but it's hardly keeping in touch.

Talk to your wife.

My husband has kids with his ex. He has to talk to her. I don't like it but I deal. She's a self-centered person to the extreme so I don't feel threatened by her in the least.

I did actually send a friend request to a long time ago boyfriend that I only dated briefly - for networking - and if he's single then I have a friend.

My husband has nothing to worry about b/c he has my heart. He's the only man that matters to me. He knows that. I tell him all of the time.

If he asked me to drop these guys then I would. No question.

[Nicky]

Me and my husband both have ex partners on our facebook and neither of us feel threatened by that. I cant say I would be overjoyed if there was a lot of email exchanges but to be honest I think having them on facebook is pretty harmless if your relationship is well functioning. Decent people only cheat when there are problems in the relationship (despite what scorned lovers would like you to believe). If you have problems in your relationship then it could be a bad thing.

[Spindrift]

It is not proper not fair and very cheap thoughtless behavior on her part, you need to tell her if she keeps chatting up all her boyfriends you're going to start to talk to your female friends...then do it. Let her see how it feels.