Why are people so mean about virginity?

[melissa]

I'm still a virgin but ive been made fun of. I'm not hideous, or stupid, I just have not had sex yet. And now I am sure I want a purity ring. Someone on Tumblr said people who wear purity rings are forever alone and had a gif of some fat nude lady dancing. And the girls on twitter who are my age laugh at the thought of a purity ring. What is so bad about it!? Am I automatically a loser for waiting until marriage?

[Matt]

Of course you're not a loser ! Society is very narrow minded on how they think. For some reason its 'cool' to start having sex at a younger age... at what has that resulted in.. "16 and Pregnant" the tv series. It's sad to see how crappy the generations growing up now are becoming. I think if you want to make the choice to not have sex until you're married then good for you ! You have a choice and you shouldn't care what others think !

[Ken]

No your a good woman which is hard to come by. The only bad thing about waiting til marriage is what if you get married have sex and end up not liking it. And say you keep trying and still don't like it or the man isnt good? Then your in a bad situation cuz believe it or not humans need sex in a relationship or it will never ever ever never work. Hard facts.

[Cat_Lover911]

Your automatically the smart one. Its a good choice to make to wait until marriage or 18 years of age because then you won't have kids until then. One of the girls your age is going to go up to you, crying that she's pregnant and too young. You can tell her that if she had waited she wouldn't be pregnant.

[C]

Why do you keep advertising your virginity and that you want a purity ring? Why do you think this needs to be public business on twitter and to everyone else? You dnt need a purity ring to not have sex. Maybe your candid natures about it invites scorn?

I seems like you just want attention by announcing it to random people.

[Charles D. M.]

On the honeymoon is a good time to explore sex, stick to your guns. Some people are jealous, wishing they could have waited and others want to see you at their level, a bit dumber.

[Brandy]

♪ ѕтσяму gαℓℓσωαу, the mean idiots and the teasers have lost something precious that you still have.

There's an old saying... "Misery loves company." The idiots want to bring you down to their level. They want you to have pregancy scares, they want you to be exposed to STD's like they have been, and they want you to be left crying naked in a pool of tears like they have been by jerks who don't care afterwards.

What can you do? Pity the idiots.

FYI, in case you're wondering... females (not males) often report pain when losing their virginity. The amount of pain varies. Some females have no pain.

How can you prepare? The amount of pain can also be related to readiness. A mature adult female sharing physical affection with a patient & loving husband on her wedding night will generally experience much less pain and more pleasure than a teen girl sneaking around with her horny, selfish, immature BF.

Young females would be wise not to jump into sex too quickly. The potential of minor physical discomfort when losing your virginity is less important than the emotional trauma, heartache, and physical problems that can develop if sex is not used wisely. Why? Because sex is a direct line into your body, your heart, and your soul (.e., sex should not be treated casually). It also gives you the power to create life (a Baby).

FYI, I'm still a virgin at age 23 and I'm proudly saving myself for marriage.

Did I ever feel horny and want to lose it? HELL YES!!! But I've also observed firsthand what happens to those who didn't wait.

A few friends and numerous classmates I knew lost their virginity as teens. The outcomes were rarely positive. Some girls got pregnant, caught an STD, or had their hearts totally broken. Some girls claimed it was the best thing ever, but then they became sl*tty and started screwing anything that had a heartbeat. A few cried for days afterwards. A few seemed to have learned their lesson, and decided to wait until they got married. A few couples stayed together for the Baby, but their relationships were full of stress and drama (ever seen "Teen Mom" on MTV?). Some were grounded after their parents found out about the sex. Most ended up with a sl*tty reputation, because the guys always blabbed to everyone.

Keeping my virginity for marriage has been very enlightening. That one single policy has unmasked countless miserable jerks who at first seemed genuinely nice... until they discovered that they weren't getting any. That's when the mask dropped and they showed their true intentions, their true character, their morals & standards, and their priorities.

That said... my long-term steady BF (and now fiancé) has genuinely earned my trust, and he's a virgin just like me. We do enjoy spending time together doing "sexual things" (french kissing, cuddling together naked, and sexual petting). Note that I'm 23 and my fiancé is 24... we aren't foolish teenagers. So, unless you're engaged with a ring and a wedding date... I'd suggest that you not get naked with any guy... because guys lie!!!

BTW, I really don't want to perform oral or have oral performed on me now or after the wedding (my choice, and my fiancé is fine with those limits).

If a female wants to engage in oral sex, fine... that's her choice. I don't want to engage in oral sex. That's my choice.

However, if a guy's dick is infested with STD's... then she'll get STD's in her mouth. Good luck with that!!!

On a related note (on which I seem to be in the minority these days)... I just don't think that a sexually mature female should attempt to look like a prepubescent little girl down there (meaning slightly trimmed is what I do with my pubic hair). That's simply my opinion.

When you find a nice BF, then keep him happy by giving him some simple problem to solve (homework), ask him to assist you with something helpful but definite that has an ending (like washing your Dad's car), and give him some compliments. He also might like to bake sugar cookies with you.... but only if you promise to give him some of the raw dough to eat.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that a BF will become your BFF. It ain't gonna happen. Guys simply don't want to sit around and talk endlessly about your feelings, their feelings, their history, their future with you, who did what to whom, or whatever. Sorry!

Also, females trying to talk to a BF in endless detail about her issues and conflicts only serves to make a guy really annoyed. Why? Because young females rarely listen to or implement any advice given by their BF for a solution, and then the following day the BF is expected to listen to their GF's next load of crap ALL OVER AGAIN... crap that she won't take any advice for anyway.

Below are a few of my favorite links that you might find interesting.

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[L]

You should be proud of your virginity. If not publicly, at least personally.
I haven't heard of a purity ring before, but I like the idea. I'm looking into getting one now, thanks!
Maybe I will just find a simple ring I love and have it engraved and blessed