This "hump&dump" thing is messing w/ my self esteem?

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Okay a month ago I had sex with a guy I've been pretty good friends with for over three years. Before we hooked up we texted nearly all day and talked on the phone several times a day, and we've barely talked since. Granted my phone was broken until this week but we were messaging on twitter the whole time my phone was broken and he'd only reply every other day. It was an emotionless hook up. I knew that going in. But I didn't think it would change anything? I don't feel any different so why should he. I haven't really been trying to initiate conversation or complain when he doesn't reply because I'm scared of looking/feeling clingy.
Maybe I'm reading too far into it because 9 months ago I gave my virginity to my ex who all but stopped talking to me and I found out a week later he had had another girlfriend for six months.

Opinions/advice?
I hardly think having sex with with a guy I dated for over a year, and a guy I've known for nearly four years makes me a slut, you scum

[Monarchco]

Why are you picking jerks? There are so many good guys out there but women rarely give them a chance. Yes your ex was a jerk but you picked him! Leave jerks alone.

[Wayne]

If you want to get past the "hump and dump" feeling, you first have to quit acting like the slut. If you demand to be treated like a lady, you have to act the part and demand that treatment from the guys you hang with. Yes, you may lose a few but they will probably be the hump and dumpers. Good luck

[E]

**** you, Wayne. If a guy stops talking to her after they have sex, it must be because "she's a slut," but I bet anything if a girl slept with and then stopped talking to a guy, it'd be "Women are such bitches, always friend-zoning the nice guys, blah blah blah."

Anyways, yeah, this guy's being weird, but I think you're probably right to try not to seem clingy. I'd just leave him his space until he gets over it. Maybe he's worried sex changed *your* feelings, and he doesn't want to lead you on when he doesn't want a relationship.

[Tell Mariee]

Most guys only want sex, so as women, you have to be careful when giving yourself away without a true commitment. Most guys are looking for sex without commitment and ONLY THAT and they will lead you on to believe something else in hopes of the possibility of that one night stand. Most guy friends have girl friends who they are attracted to and they will appear to be the perfect guy, but some of them are just there in hopes to one day get in your pants and if you allow them to that privilege, without any commitments, some of them will walk away afterward because they have no reason to put up with your drama/life anymore. They have already gotten what they truly wanted from you and now they are on to the next girl.

Now if these guys did find interest in you, they would have stuck around after the sex but they didn't, which tells you that you were being lead on and played and you fell into the trap that some girls do. The amount of time that you have known a person means nothing. You can know someone for 2 months and HONESTLY know that person from the inside and out, but then you can know something for 12 years and NOT know them AT ALL. It's crazy and it sucks but it's what happened to you.

You need to be more careful and less open when giving yourself away. You need to demand a commitment and not settle for anything less or else you will find yourself with a booklet full of meaning sex stories. Make them wait. And don't give yourself away to an ex or just a friend, if they aren't yours to have then they aren't worth sleeping with no matter how long you have known them. You deserve better so treat yourself that way.

Good Luck and God Bless!
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