Getting over an ex who is a sociopath... 7 years together... impossible?

[ktrn-ab]

I loved my sociopathic boyfriend very much for 7 years that we were together but he was hurting me most of the time. I kept telling myself it was not his fault, it was the disorder. I believed I could fix him with my love and I always forgave him everything. But he completely destroyed me with all his lies and ignorance, and more than a year ago, I broke up with him when he spent yet another night in the casino (which was becoming way too habitual). We were living together for a long time and had nowhere to go after the break-up so we were sleeping in the same bed for another year. Of course, we did not only sleep. We never stopped having sex, as if we had never broken up. He needed sex and I needed somebody to hold me. This year in April, he moved out and I was devastated. I kept making stupid excuses so that I could go see him now and then and we always had sex. We agreed we would stop doing that as soon as one of us starts seeing someone else. 2 months ago, I had to move to another city and I have been going crazy ever since. I want him so much. He kept promising to come and see me,but he hasn't come. My friends think I am still in love with him. I don't know. I really want to have sex with him again, I have never been with anyone else and after 8 years of having sex with me, he knows exactly what to do with me and I want it so bad. But I am not sure that is all I want. I keep waiting for him to call, checking his facebook page and asking everyone if he is seeing anyone. But I don't want to get back together with him, he has destroyed me, I know I will never be happy with him. So why I am still obsessing about him so much? I feel like a freak every time I read his facebook page. I don't want to be with him but I need him. The idea of someone else touching me makes me sick. I only want him. Even though I am not sure if I actually love him anymore. Is this normal? Is this a result of his manipulations? I know that girls find it more difficult to get over a sociopath than any other guy but I feel like I am going crazy. I sent him a nasty text message and now feel really sorry about it and I am actually thinking about sending him flowers with a I am sorry message. What is wrong with me? Is this ever going to stop? It has been 18 months and I haven't been able to look at any other guy. Should I keep the ex with benefits relationship?

[Pete]

Jeez get a grip of your self. Move on

[Thunderoushope581]

this may help:

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up

[Soul Prophet]

The answer is it's not impossible.

Focus on the reasons that you don’t want to be with him anymore. This will help you "fall out of love" with him. Focus on the things that you hated about him and look for reasons that he was not someone that you actually want to be with long term. This will make it easier for you to move on.

Another thing i recommend is writing down a list of what your perfect guy would be like. get clear on what kind of guy you DO want to be in a relationship with: who is he? what is his character like? what does he enjoy doing? How does he treat you? How does he make you feel?

The very first thing u need to do is let go of hope of this working out. its clear that he doesnt want to be with you anymore. You need this space in order to get over him, i know you care about him but you can’t have him in your life and move on at the same time. give yourself 30 days of no contact, ideally 90 days. talking to your ex boyfriend will not help you get over him whatsoever. in fact, itll only make things worse. Checking up on him on facebook and twitter is simply self-torture. Stop doing it. Block him on facebook so you can’t follow him, remove him from your newsfeed, do the same on twitter and any other places that remind you of him.

In the meantime, focus on the bad things about him and all the reasons that you dont want to be with him anymore. This will reaffirm the fact that he’s not right for you and make it easier to move on. it will reaffirm the fact that he’s not the person you want to be in a relationship with. this may not feel natural at first but it will stop you from sulking and moping about the loss.

These are just a couple tips that i think will help you.