How to lose a friend without being mean about it?

[Erica]

I feel so bad about this, but there is this girl called emma and I was never really friends with her, Last year she sat with me and my friends jenny in biology for a few weeks at the end of the year because she had a fight with her friend and had no one to sit with. I got on with her, she was nice but we weren’t friends.

This year in school she is in a few of my classes and I hang out with my two friends, and she hangs out with us even though we aren’t that close. I liked her at the start of the year but lately she has become SO boring! She only talks about the x factor even though I watch the show myself, she always talks about school and nothing else and when I’m with her I feel upset.

I recently decided that if there is a person who has a negative impact on my life then I won’t associate with them so I decided to stop hanging out with her
In class I talk to other people and if we have group work I move around and talk to different people. But I think my leaving her has made her upset
She went home early today even though I don’t think she was sick, she put on twitter ‘some people aren’t wroth your tears’ and ‘I hate fake friends’ I don’t want to be mean but I don’t want to be her friend because I don’t Like her and pretending to like her does no help to anyone, what do I do?

Thanks a mil x

[Titty]

you're a bitch

[roundrainstorm114]

Do you not like her because your friends don't either? You liked her at first. Maybe you don't really kniw her because your friends are around and she hides her true self. Maybe get to know her one on one. You can have separate friends from your circle. You may be passing by a really great friend.
If it doesn't work out, just tell her gently how you feel. Don't ignore her or make excuses. The best way to let someone down easy is the truth, even though that may hurt.

[Brad]

maybe tell her about it. she is going to get mad no matter what because you are sort of dumping her as a friend but maybe keep talking to her when you are not with your other two friends that way you do not hurt her and you do not feel bad as much

[Sahara]

There's nothing wrong with being polite and talking to people - this doesn't make you a friend just a nice person.

You'll find as an adult when you go to work that there are all sorts of people about - some you will like a lot and will become friends, some you will dislike and some you may find boring - you still have to get on with all these people.

Of course someone will be upset if you have spent time with them and then for no reason just blank them. This is cruel.

[Ines]

Ok, I'm going to be honest about my view on this:
You don't like her because she talks about X-Factor only and you find her boring?!
I mean, fair enough you can find her boring, but does that justify you disliking her? Sometimes my friends are boring talking about the same thing only, but I just change the subject - problem solved.
What can you do? You can be civil with her, polite and kind. If you don't want her hanging around with you as much, back away a little, but not in such a way that it is obvious. That is not nice, and will upset her.

[Bronagh]

You seem to have alwready de-friended her so you should just give her time to get over it, but try not to ignore her, say hi to her accessionly and treat her as a aquatance. But what do I know?

[Bless Machine]

Well, u could let her see this post. tell her how u feel and if shes a b**ch bout it, then who cares? u aren't even friends anyway and she seems to have accepted that.

[shara]

I understand what you mean been in this situation so many times. honestly you've just gotta drift away from her. i mean she doesn't sound like a bitch or anything in-fact she seems quite nice. i think i have probably been in her situation before too and i became friends with another group of friends becos i fell out with my other ones. i dont really like talking about this becos the girl told me all my faults and i went through depression becos i had to lone all the time! I think you've let emma know in a nicer way. trust me she will find friends who better fit her sooner or later and in time she will probably forgive you for letting her know how you feel... but what ever you do dont tell her how you feel about her i know how much that can hurt...

oh yea and when you talk try not to say too much, just be causal but don't completely blank her...

[Thomas]

When I read "I hate fake friends" my heart ripped in half. Honestly, you should be lucky you have someone willing to be friends with you.

Do you really want to bring someone else down at the expense of yourself?

Get to know her a bit, I'm assuming you are judging a book by its own cover and not having the time to really know her, you will like her better if you really get to know her.

For the first time, I actually feel disgusted when you wrote all that, honestly that girl deserves alot better and she seems incredibly genuine.

I don't even know you and you are starting to piss me off.