So he broke up with the girlfriend... and now I'm stuck?

[Felicite]

This guy I know and have kind of liked for about a year and a half just split up from his girlfriend of two years. I am not entirely sure who did the splitting as it's on Facebook but he isn't talking about it. He doesn't seem unhappy about it outwardly.

Now I am not sure what to make of this guy - he is very friendly, we're close, he'll come round to my apartment an hour before class just to hang out and of all my friends he's probably the one who invites me to most stuff. He spent yesterday evening at mine (invited himself, somewhat awkwardly) and I'm due to spend this evening at his.

I am probably reading way too much into the smiling and laughing and teasing and suddenly letting me touch him in small ways and wanting to see me. It wouldn't be the first time, although I think this behaviour took an increase with this guy about 2 weeks before the breakup. Somebody just needs to tell me to back off and leave him alone for a while, he's going through a tough time. Or am I being too paranoid? I'm not forcing anything, so if he wants to see me more of the time, am I entitled to just enjoy it?

Confused and worried

[steephen843]

If he's your friend and he's upset and needs company, you should be there for him. This is what friends do. However, if you want anything to happen with this guy then you're going to have to hold on for a while until he gets over her, otherwise you might end up just being a rebound. He might have feelings for you, only time can tell. But bringing them up now with him would be the wrong thing to do, he needs his time. But definitely don't back off, he needs friends right now.

[fainthorse586]

It sounds like he's lining you up aas a potential gf.
You would be wise to avoid being a rebound. Spend time with him by all means, but don't rush into anything. Also, as the relationship is so recent, you might ant more info about the breakup etc before you jump into anything.