Overcoming loneliness when you have no one to talk to?

[Holden Kemper]

I don't really have friends anymore. I used to. I was on great terms with my ex and we talked a lot about things, but we barely talk anymore. I barely see my friends anymore, and when I feel depressed, everyone seems to ignore me. I'm not a jerk to people, and I don't understand why they seem to hate me.

I've come to the conclusion I just wasn't meant to be around people. I wish I never discovered things like Facebook. It just increases my loneliness since people ignore me there too. How do I cope with solidarity? You know, being alone? I'm 18 and feel way too old for anything. I miss having people to talk to. Everyone seems to pass by in their lives while I sit and rot. My friends treat me like the plague. My best "friend" barely talks to me. I've been having suicidal thoughts recently, and it's hard not to anymore. Does anyone know what I could do to deal with being alone? I feel miserable all the time. I seem to shift between extreme happiness to misery within hours, and I don't understand why.

[rely in religion]

hey this your chance,you better go and ask people who has friends and they all abandon him in times.you dont need friends its better to be without friends who meddle in our affairs.

[inrsprt]

Man...I was in your shoes to the point you mention.. just know that there are people out there just like you and even worse...go and donate/volunteer... go join a club your good at where everyone likes the same hobby... call upon God your creator to help you out ...do it sincerely...I promiss lonleyness can be a GIFT too that not many realize ...I've learned a lot through it.

[Misuse Of Muse Use]

Most of my friends are dead, but they still keep me company and make me laugh and smile from time to time. Start reading; that's what I do.

[Max Alvarez]

I can kinda relate to you. What I do is talk to my imaginary friends (i have 2), read, do meditation. (hope i spelled that right), or cry.

[scrawnyocean072]

There are so many things in life you’re going to miss out on if you do. I totally understand, but don't. Calm down and think it through. Think about all the people you'll be hurting. Killing yourself won't do anything to help it you will miss out on life. You matter to everybody and you were put on the earth for a reason. Death is not meant for you to pick when. You have a reason to be here just like everyone else and you are very important. Talk to someone you trust.
If you feel suicidal, please call the suicide hotline immediately.
1-800-273-8255
or
1-800-784-2433
http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html

[Summer]

I think this is a good time to do some soul-searching to see what's truly going on. Are your expectations very high, or is there something you might need to improve on. Or is it just a part of life. Loving our own company is the best thing ever. If you like reading books, getting immersed in your projects, in your own ideas about your future, if you like to think and wonder, or learn about different things, or just do nothing.. being in solitude fill us up. Makes us feel complete. Life's not just about doing. But being too. Some friends aren't meant to be, with other friends where things can be mutual, one has to cultivate a friendship. Visit with them, ask them what's going on, see if they need help with anything where you can pitch in, keep your ego in check and don't hold grudges. Uplift your mood. People like to be with others who are positive and real. By real, it means you accept what's happening and take positive steps to combat it. U are never choice-less. There are always choices. There's always help. If you want to talk to someone, sometimes counselors are a great idea. There's likely to be someone real nice and empathetic in your life..who you can go to. Think about it.

When I am by myself and feeling low, I get comfortable with it. Why fight it. Either I get comfortable and learn to accept and enjoy it, or take steps to get out of it.

I think of my own life goals, be it health, career, hobbies, work etc. And I get busy with it. This keeps me very occupied. I also think of volunteer work in my community. It's a wonderful way to make a contribution, and you end up feeling so good about yourself, and your life. You also meet like-minded people in the process who can become your friends.

So take steps to think about what you'd like to be involved in, and then make it happen, step by step. Take the initiative with nice people in your life. If you feel it's not mutual, let it go. There are others. There will always be others. We all have to face some rejection in life. It is part of life. Be positive! Take care.