Long read but I NEED URGENT ADVICE? My boyfriend was borderline cheating help :(?

[morrigan]

I have known this guy for 2 years. We were in a long distance relationship last year for about, 5 months until he found a Facebook that I didn't even use with guys on there. Apparently, (I don't remember this) he saw a message I wrote asking to call another guy. I don't remember this but I'm not denying it. I think I was in a relationship with him when I made it because I do remember creating it. I was not cheating.

He found out -- and cut me out of his life for 8 months. He said he'd kill himself if I didn't get back with him, ugh, I even missed my first day at my new school because of that. Anyway. We've been going good since May of this year.

He always made me feel bad by saying that he gets "thoughts" about the guys I used to talk to. And I don't even remember it so they weren't THAT important... tried explaining this to him, but he took it way out of context. Whatever!!

Soo yesterday I saw a message he wrote to his ex girlfriend. If I remember correctly he asked her to listen to his songs he made because "she never lies". (I give him good feedback about his music and he said nobody elses opinion matters... weell, off with that idea..) He even created a gmail account for her, making her laugh by saying "the password is... *her name--retard*loves balls" and yeah.

Then he asks her how many guys she's had sex with. Why she left him. He said something along the lines of..."Did you leave me because I didn't give you an orgasm?" That's supposedly meant to be a joke. Ha. Theeen he asked her if her ex boyfriend was better than him; how he was afraid to have sex with her, etc. I'm so mad right now.

So I check her twitter, and she tweeted something like this..."Aw! The fact that my ex boyfriend (My bf now) still loves and supports me after all these years. Love you " Rah rah rah all of that shizz.

So he found out I'm SO mad! I'm so hurt! He said "I did it out of spite". He says he asked how many guys she's had sex with because of their "Religion"..

HELP ME!!!=[

[kikismom]

This sounds like a highly disfunctional and unhealthy relationship. Move on. He's not worth it

[Another Crone]

I think that your boyfriend would do well to have some personal counseling with a private therapist.

The two of you have a lot of pain between you in the two short years since you began a relationship. 5 months long distance and 8 months broken up and suicide threats and internet infidelities and revenge actions and.... well.... life can be so much better than this dear! You two are flat out unhappy in your actions together and it seems to be getting worse.

Please leave this relationship behind you and move ahead. Date awhile... a long while before settling on another boyfriend. Do things with groups and meet different people. A wide variety of people. Face to fact dating... none of that long distance stuff. Please take some time to just enjoy other people's company and find a far more healthy approach to partnerships.

Live can be so much better than this. You have no reason to settle for stingy unhappiness. Get yourself back into the dating pool!