Im trying to lose a friend but im being mean about it .help?

[Erica]

I feel so bad about this, but there is this girl called emma and I was never really friends with her, Last year she sat with me and my friends jenny in biology for a few weeks at the end of the year because she had a fight with her friend and had no one to sit with. I got on with her, she was nice but we weren’t friends.

This year in school she is in a few of my classes and I hang out with my two friends, and she hangs out with us even though we aren’t that close. I liked her at the start of the year but lately she has become SO boring! She only talks about the x factor even though I watch the show myself, she always complains about something and frowns every time i see her and she always talks about school and nothing else and when I’m with her I feel upset.

I recently decided that if there is a person who has a negative impact on my life then I won’t associate with them so I decided to stop hanging out with her
In class I talk to other people and if we have group work I move around and talk to different people. But I think my leaving her has made her upset

She went home early today even though I don’t think she was sick, she put on twitter ‘some people aren’t wroth your tears’ and ‘I hate fake friends’ and 'i sometimes have days were i dont want to talk to people, today is one of those days' I don’t want to be mean but I don’t want to be her friend because I don’t Like her and pretending to like her does no help to anyone, what do I do?

Before you judge me, you dont no her! my friend Sarah used to be her best friend but had to stop talking to her because she was getting depression from being with her

Thanks a mil x

[Fish]

Just continue with what you're doing. Just ignore her and just try to pretend that you're losing interest when she talks. With what she's doing right now, if you talk to her about it or get involved, it'll only get worse. She wasn't really a close friend in the first place and she should understand that if you don't like her, then she should give you some space.

[Fatme]

Omg girl! I've had the same problem! And with the Facebook and tweets things. Yeah, she used to do that too. I'm not telling you to be mean, but its totally your life. Do whatever you want. In my case, I chose to ignore her and she eventually found some other friends. Its your life, you don't need to be surrounded by depressing people. Even if they are nice, I just figured I don't need to be forced to please anyone if I don't want to. Hope this helps, good luck girl!

[Unluckymailbox800]

why not help her change instead of just dumping her? Clearly this is an issue that will follow her around forever unless someone says 'hey, you're bumming me out, and if you don't stop being such a downer i'm going to spend less time with you.'

That's what a real friend would do for her.

[S]

i had a situation kind of like this last year, one of my friends started getting really depressing and rude to me. she would shove me and cuss at me and then laugh like we were both enjoying it. this year i decided i couldn't be friends with her anymore so whenever she messaged me of tagged me in a post on fb i ignored her, i came up with excuses like my phone isn't working or my computer is down and shes stopped bothering me now. my only issue now is that a few of my best friends that stayed in touch with her are always trying to get use to all hang out together so ive had to isolate myself from them to, which sucks but then again we all switched schools and none of them go to school with me anymore. now at my new school ive made a new best friend, someone i can be weird with that isn't mean to me, only issue is hes a guy and one of his friends thinks we're dating even though my friend has a girlfriend.... sorry i couldn't be much help, but it might help just knowing your not alone...

[Mark]

be stern not mean, when call, answer but keep brief and never meet up they'll eventually fade,

[Mircat]

I'm going to ask you where is the kindness in your heart and how did it get filled with such thoughlessness? Where is your sympathy? Where is your caring about another human being?

Here's a gal, Emma, who didn't have a friend so you threw her a scrap of bone like to a stray dog and let her tag along after you begging for more scraps. You declare her boring and then in a brilliant display of self-serving decide to improve your life and rid yourself of strays like Emma. She went home and from the sounds of her Twitter she is well aware of what you are doing and how you are treating her. You are absolutely right, you are being mean. I see no cause or excuse for it.

Could you girls not have helped her along, guided her, encouraged, let her talk encouraged her to talk about other things although it seems you while you both watch the same TV show, for some reason she's made to sound and look bad because she's watching it while there is nothing wrong with you watching it.

I'm sorry, as two young women who supposedly have brains, you could have been helping Emma not putting her down. Your comment about not judging you because we don't know Emma only shows me you know exactly how poorly you are acting and exactly how badly you are going to be perceived in this situation. Nobody gets depression from being friends with Emma. But two very cliquish and selfish girls are making it sound that way and using it as their pathetic excuse to shove this lonely girl away.

Little does Emma know but she'd be better off without both of you. Meanwhile, both you and Sarah need to learn some humility and compassion.