Why am i suddenly feeling sad for no reason?

[HEAL THE WORLD]

I have been feeling extremely depressed the past few days.
I have no idea why i'm feeling this way.

Lately i have been thinking lots of things.
I realise that i really yearn for deep connections with people, but i can't find anybody whom i can trust. People let me down all the time, and i always trust the wrong people all the time.
For example, i have an online friend whom i added on facebook, we always messaged each other on facebook, but one day he suddenly deleted me from his facebook.
He always told me that i'm one of his trusted friends but his actions contradicted his words.
He deleted me from his facebook, i felt really shocked when i clicked on his profile and saw that "add as friend" button. I felt so hurt that he deleted me like that.
I regarded him as my close friend. :/


And it's not just him who disappointed me. I have another person whom i regard as my close friend, but she uses the things i confided in her to humiliate me during arguments.
I don't know anymore, i have already lose confidence in people. Even my family also constantly criticise me and puts me down all the time.
I want to find someone whom i can trust. but the only person i can trust is God, because humans are all sinners and they always do things that end up hurting me.
but at the same time, i'm feeling so lonely.


How do i stop feeling depressed? How do i stop feeling lonely?

[drdr]

Self-destructive/self-defeating behavior may also be a subconscious (not something one recognizes as a motivator) means of drawing the attention of others, so that they can provide help. It is more effective to directly seek help from a properly qualified counselor. A psychotherapist cannot provide a cure, they can only provide guidance toward techniques that have worked for others, and some treatment relies on changing behavior.

Behavior comes down to habit, change your habits to change yourself. Thinking positively about one’s self and doing what needs to be done (particularly when it is hard to do) can go a long way, and thinking positive thoughts is more effective than trying to suppress negative thoughts. It has been proven that even fake laughter triggers a biochemical reaction in the brain that positively alters one’s perspective.

“Conscious parts of the brain train other parts of the neural machinery, establishing goals and allocating resources” (Eagleman). Establishing a habit to replace a habit that is the result of many years of practice is very difficult, particularly if it involves behavior that has become a character trait. If you start slow and gradually increase you will have a better chance of making it a habit. Of course, it will take 3 weeks or more to establish a replacement habit, and longer if it involves a firmly entrenched trait. One must commit to doing something they don't want to do.

All mental processes are bio-chemical in nature. And, depression can be triggered by defective assimilation of sugar. One should not underestimate the effects of proper diet (minimal sugar and fat, avoiding processed and refined foods and soft drinks, minimal fast food; seek out vegetables, fruits, beans, legumes, seeds, nuts, a small amount of whole grains, fish, poultry, and an occasional small amount of lean meat; but treat yourself occasionally), avoiding drugs (legal and illegal) and alcohol, and adequate sleep (consistent each day and preferably more than 7 hours , but note that excessive sleep can have negative effects), which are essential for optimal physical and mental functioning. ADHD can be treated in this way. And, meditation has been proven to reduce stress (many books are available). Also, self-absorption can be associated with some level of depression.

The American Journal of Physiology (Sep 2011) explained how exercise improves memory, treats depression, and makes people feel better. Dr. Gabe Mirkin's E-Zine reported that: “Exercise increases the size and number of mitochondria in the brains of mice. … This could explain how exercise improves memory, treats depression, and makes people feel better and helps them to think more clearly.”

While some require medication, examination of clinical research indicates that “antidepressants are not much better than placebos - dummy pills with no active ingredients in them at all. … Many of the studies sponsored by the drug companies were never published at all.” [The Emperor’s New Drugs: Exploding the Antidepressant Myth, by I. Kirsch] This indicates that most may have the ability to cure themselves, if they believe it to be so.

Depression self-help: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_tips.htm

WebMD depression health check:
http://www.webmd.com/depression/default.htm

National Mental Health Association Hotline
800-969-NMHA (6642)

American Psychological Association therapist locator: http://locator.apa.org/

Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.
John W. Gardner

A man is but the product of his thoughts, what he thinks, he becomes.
Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948)

The mind is its own place, and in itself
Can make a Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven.
John Milton, Paradise Lost, Chapter 1 (1667)

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter. …
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here. …
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Max Ehrmann (1872-1945), Desiderata (c. 1920s)