Overprotective mom...can someone help?

[RoseTea]

My mom is really overprotective.
she doesn't let me hang out with my friends AT ALL or go anywhere by myself (not even across the street to the park). She doesnt let me and my sister go to theaters to see movies or take us to the mall to buy clothes and stuff. She doesnt want us to have a Facebook, Twitter, or any kind of social media,not even texting or talking on the phone. She doesnt like us going on YouTube and downloading recent music (its always: go get Beatles (i have no problem with the Beatles, i love them and all, but thats not the point), or oh download this song, i like it. its MY ipod. if she wants that music she can download it on her's. she always complains if she has to drive me somewhere but wont let me at least learn how to drive. i am not allowed to have a boyfriend (at all!). i am 15 and a sophmore in high school. why she keeps me so isolated i dont know. people have tryed to tell her to loosen her grip on us but she wont budge. she always says that shes going to do this for us or give that to us but she never does. i have NEVER gotten any kind of an allowance from her. the only money i manage to save is lunch money (im getting kinda hungry these days). She lets my sister do things with her friends and have fun and buys her stuff. when i ask why she either says "youre too young." or "she has a harder time than you." WHAT???? she uses the same excuse EVERY YEAR!!!! when my sis was 14, she went places with her friends and stuff. I STILL CAN'T!!!! ( my sister and i are 11 months apart) i am more mature than my sister (even though im starting to loose my sanity) and im tired of it. if i try to talk with her about these things and tell her - hey, you know, how come i cant do this and she can?? OR why cant i do this? im smart, im not going to let anything happen to me. ( i am a average grade student with As, Bs, and few Cs.) i tell her things kindly and calmly but when i start she just completely looses it and yells her head off like i just told her something truly bad. Then, she continues to say something like " I never did that to my parents!!!!" and then she storms away and doent talk to me for days and "punishes" me by saying that next time i ask for something she'll say no,which isnt much of punishment to me, i mean like she already does that. oh... and she doesnt let me watch TV. its mostly just news.
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So can you please tell me what i can do to bring awareness to my mom that i am going to have to grow up one day no matter what and that im not always going to be her little girl. without her blowing up on me. i want to stay on her good side. Thanks

[MARK B]

She does sound over protective, and is still treating you like the baby - which to her mind you probably still are. It is tough for a parent to let go sometimes. Don't expect too much too soon, and pointless asking for too much. Gently gently, and she may soften up a bit over time.

[Heather]

my best advice is to sit down and have a mother to daughter talk about it and then see where that will lead and show her how you and your sister can be responsible and prove she can trust you guys.

[Jeanot]

I agree with Heather ^^ Also regularly remind her in 2-3 years your gone/ on your own. She'll start realizing she needs to do better with you if she wants to stay in contact and also that your growing up. Otherwise does your dad live with you guys? If he does you could talk to him about it / find an adult -aunt, grandmother/grandfather, godfather. Hope that helps