My family bullies me. What should i do?

[SmileyGirlxoxo]

i'm a 15 year old girl and i have problems with my family. i need help so i hope you take time to read this. My family-they're horrible to me and they keep bullying me, especially my mother. She abuses me emotionally and physically as well. She told me she hated me once.. she calls me names ALL THE TIME and i'm REALLY REALLY sick of it. she makes me feel useless by saying im talentless, or unworthy of living. the thing is, it all started a few years ago.. i dont know what went wrong but my mom started hating me and giving me "silent treatments" frequently and always kept comparing me with my elder sister. she hit me when i spoke up for myself, telling me that i was back-answering. and then i fell into depression, my grades went down, i lost all my friends and i practically lost everything i loved. and then i started thinking of commiting suicide. suicidal thoughts were the only thoughts i had then. i talked about it to my bestfriend and she made me understand that suicide wasnt the solution to anything. i tried talking to my mom about it, but she wouldnt listen. now, im her punchbag. there isnt a SINGLE day i dont cry when i come back from school. I'm lucky if she's in a good mood. today, sometimes, she takes the anger out on my pets..it's just really sad to watch. i cant stand up for myself because of my fear. i cant talk to my dad because he doesnt care. my elder sister just points at me and complains to my mother for EVERYTHING. my mother doesnt want a reason to start screaming at me, calling me names or smacking me or even complaining about me to other people about what a terrible daughter i am. when i cry, she calls me a crybaby or tells me to shut up. the thing is, she controlls every bit of my life. i feel so helpless, like a puppet when im with her...and i want it to stop. i dont want to get jealous of my friends' relationship with their mothers, i dont want to keep being bullied by the people that used to mean the world to me.. because it really really hurts and makes me feel so violated. i want to help other people who get bullied (by friends, family or teachers) just as much as i want my family to stop bullying/abusing. what do i do?

[lola]

I know how you feel. My mom doesn't abuse me but she puts me down or tells me that im not going to do anything with my life and stuff like that. i use to cry almost every night, but then i just started ignoring it. when she talks i just stare at her with a blank face. She gets pissed when i do that but who honestly cares. You should tell someone who really cares about you whats going on. DONT go to relatives because they'll just side with your parents. Try a teacher or something like that. I on the other hand was thinking about running away. We'll see.

[Natalia]

You should read the book Call Me Hope by Gretchen Olson. I happened upon it once when I felt like you did..Try reading it with your mom, and she will understand the depressure she is doing you. Also, you vlcan go to your school's guidance counsler if it has one and tell him or her everything. They will listen and understand. If your mom refuses, read it yourself and take notes on what you can say or do ti help you through this time. I'm so sorry about what you're going through right now :'( It's so sad when a mother lets down her child and abuses them (verbally /physically) I hope I. Helped you and I wish you luck. If you need someone to chat with about the situation, you can always add me as a contact and talk to me. Good luck ~Natalia ♥

[Lauraa]

Hey, I'm 15 too and I totally understand your situation. I had a terrible relationship with my mom up until last year.. and I wanted to start off by saying that I'll be praying for you. Honestly, my situation doesn't seem to have been as tough as yours is, because my dad and older brother were there for me too. My grandma especially helped me out. But you need to understand how amazing it is for you to have a best friend like that! What she did for you is a HUGE deal. PLEASE never take your own life. Or even self-harm. It's a hard thing to control and stop. Not saying that you do that, just wanted to put that out there though cause I know what it's like.
But for me, the real problem was that my mom was going through menapause which made her bipolarness and anger issues bad. Like, SO bad. She told me similar stuff that you're being told.. and the best advice I have is to stay strong. I know that's probably not all what you were hoping for, but honestly that's the best thing you can do for starts. It's okay not to be okay. I always felt soooo much better when I cried to my friend or brother and told them everything.
Also, something that helped me a LOT is this girl Carrie Shade, who runs a twitter account called @AgainstSuicide. She's SO inspirational and has already saved numerous lives just with her words.

IF you did want to do something bigger about it, you could always go to the police station and tell them the stuff that's happened and if it's considered unsafe for you, they will get social services to take you away and you would live elsewhere.

oh, and sometimes all it takes is one friend. You don't need all the fake ones you "lost", because the truth is, if they left you when you needed them the most, they were never worth having in the first place. If nothing else, ask back and I'll be here for you. I'll give you my contact info if need be.


Good Luck ♥

[Jope]

You may not like me but I was the bully in my family at one time and regret it now. My brothers still hold resentment and keeps us apart. It has long term consequences and You should be the to stop this by seeking professional and this is up to U my yahoo friend to initiate. Gods Speed

[blair]

I think you should talk to someone who can help you. A guidance counselor, a teacher or a trusted friend's parent? They could be of great help. Tell them what you're going through.

What I can say is to not hurt yourself. Don't let their bad deeds get to you. You're better than them. You know better.