Ex girlfriend doesnt get that I am trying to move on?

[McLovin]

My ex and I broke up in Jan. but kept minimal contact. Then in June I told her that i wanted to work things out with her but she didnt care much about it. I pretty much did desparated things like have lunch with her, spend time with her, being romantic with her to try to get her back but at the end my plan failed. So after all that I thought to myself and said that I am not going to try anymore. I cant be dwelling about this because I have self respect ib myself so in September I told her that I can't be friends with anymore because I still have feelings for her and it'll only hold me back if I see her. I went no contact with her but she still calls and text me from time to time. Once in a while she would show up at my apartment to visit me. I play it cool and try not to bring up why she still comes around when I told her that I don't want to be her friend anymore. Then my birthday just past recently and she wanted to take me out to dinner. We were suppose to go to dinner but she cancelled on me last minute which I didn't care much, then the other day she came over and knock on my door but I didn't open.

Just when I think that I am getting over her she pops into my life and the feelings I have for her comes back. Sometimes I feel like I have a chance with her and sometimes when I think about it i just hate her for what shes doing to me. I just want to confront her about this but I know that she's gonna make a big deal about this.


What should I do? It seems like she didn't get the part where I told her that I am trying to move on and she keeps coming into my life like nothing has happen.

[Kaleb]

Simply ask her to leave you alone and let her know that you can't be around her. If she can't take the kind, subtle hint then tell her to leave you the hell alone.

[May]

You've done everything polite you could. You should block her so she can't text you and tell her to leave if she comes over, or say you have to go out and leave. You just have to be firm because you won't get over her like this.

[Samantha]

She's being a selfish biotch. She doesn't want you but doesn't want you to move on that's why she keeps coming back to screw with you. She probably has low self esteem and can only feel good about herself as long as you still have feelings for her, or she hasn't found anyone new so she's using you as back up. Trust me, I'm a girl and not saying all girls do this but many do, simply because girls are attention seekers.

I suggest you tell her straight and tell her to stop coming around because you don't want to see her. If she wanted to work things out she would've made it clear. Have some back bone and dignity please.

I bet you 100 bucks once she finds a new dude she'll drop you again, so why set yourself up or let her play you? Tell her to scram, for good.

[l8tr g8tr]

Cut ALL contact with her. Stop calling her, stop taking her calls, stop making plans, delete her phone number, e-mail, Facebook, everything!

If she shows up at your home - don't answer the door. If she continues, send her a letter and ask her to stop. If that doesn't work - file stalking charges on her.

When your lease is up - move.

[LilJoe]

hit it oonce or twice a week and let her see she is being USED..after awhile she will leave