Is physical attraction everything?

[Rosalie]

iv noticed,
people only get into relationships with thin girls.

have been told I have wonderful fun personality.
they seem to really like me.
but stop they're selfs just because
I'm a bit over waight.
I get some acne.
don't have the whitest teeth.
I'm 5'6 & 180pounds,
I'm currently loosing waight for myself.
around 70pounds is my goal.

once I loose waight will the boys who practically rejected me, will want me.
I ofcourse won't want them,
that would be so shallow of them.

okay, maybe I do want some revenge.

just seems like when a girl is a bit over waight
& is a great person.. guys don't want them more then a friend.

when a girl is thin but a total bitch the guys don't mind having them in a relationship.

help?

here is a photograph of me:
http://m.facebook.com/?_rdr#!/therealros...4448324605

[Lilly]

The men like that are not worth it trust me! I'm not slim slim I have a bit of weight on me.. I will not loose no weight for no man, I don't care what they think.. If they don't like it move on! Tuff!

Loose the weight for yourself not someone else!

[Kev]

The philosophy of partnership in my opinion goes as follows: "looks attract, personality grabs"
seems pretty simple? it is. essentially, a good looking person will attract more people no doubt, but if they are after a serious relationship but act like **** then its gonna be bad relationship obviously. if a guy doesnt mind having a **** relationship for the looks, then he obviously doesn't want her for who she is as opposed to USING her, you must understand that.

hope this helps

[Oki]

Physical appearance is the first impression. When people get to know how cool of a person your are that could raise your physical appearance upwards. If your character sucks then your physical appearance lowers.

[Jennifer]

A lot of guys can be shallow. They always want to impress their friends with the 'hottest' girl. But not all guys are like that. Today's society is so hard to live in because of standards the media and people in general have put upon us. We live in one shallow world.

I'm 5'6" and 155. I'm on the curvier side myself. I used to have trouble landing guys as well, but I found out it wasn't my weight that was my problem - it was my self-confidence. Guys like a girl who's confident in herself. They like a girl who's fine in her own body and has self-respect. I didn't learn this until I went to college. I gained more self-confidence and started going out more and eventually I never had trouble flirting and landing guys.

Once you see yourself in a whole different light and just accept yourself, that's when others start accepting you. Be more confident in yourself and your potential.

[Obi Wan Knievel]

I'm a guy. And you, my dear, are full of shat.

Sorry, but you are. You totally have the wrong idea about us. Thin girls? Please!

I didn't look at the picture you posted, and I don't have to. I'm sure you're absolutely beautiful just from the description you gave, and if I looked at your pic I would know I'm right. As long as you're a girl and have all those amazing girl parts, you have everything you need. And if you have pretty eyes (and all girls have pretty eyes), that's just the icing on the cake.

There is only one thing in the world that would stop guys from asking you out, and that's your confidence level. Many girls less attractive than you have boyfriends (again, you know I'm right), so what's their secret? Their secret isn't a secret at all, it's self confidence. You can have it too, you just need to know how it's done.

If you want, send me an e-mail and I'll help you. I promise not to get rude or inappropriate, and I'll help you break through that barrier.

[Adam]

Unfortunately, you are right on this matter as far as MOST guys are concerned. Now that being said, I don't personally go for just looks but they definetly help and if you lose some weight, the guys who once rejected you will come CRAWLING to you in droves. My girlfriend is skinny but she underweight (5'8 & 105lbs) and hides her small frame with too large cardigans as she is incredibly selfconcious about being so skinny and virtually unable to gain weight because of her cystic fibrosis. Most guys tend to have 'cut off points' where the girls they are going for have to be just right otherwise, they are considered 'anorexic' if they are too thin or 'too fat' if they look even slightly overweight. It's quite sad really because like you said you are relegated to 'friend' status pretty quickly. As far as losing weight for yourself, try to eliminate stress from your life as much as possible as this one little tip can go a long way in helping you drop pounds before you know. Also, don't get discouraged by the scale as it can be somewhat deceiving. For example, if you drink a half liter of water (which has no calories at all) you will gain about a pound in 'water weight' but will lose that pound as the water passes through your system. Good luck with that though and stick with.